First of all I am 6’1″ I am very athletic 210lbs(muscular), and I’ve been told that I am attractive.
I thought it would get better as I got into college as I got out of my shell near the end of high school. The only thing that has happened is that I have gone on a couple of dates every year and nothing comes of it.
It seems so easy for some of my friends. Friends who don’t even try. I have one friend who is afraid to talk to girls, and this one really hot girl basically just picks him up and now they’re dating. I don’t get it.
Now I will say this and it’s going to sound like a role reversal between men and women. There have been a few times when girls have come after me for nothing but sex. Again sounds weird. I am not against that in a relationship, but it was a case of hit it and quit it. I know that coming from a guy that sounds weird, but that’s what was going on. That has happened to me 5 times. some of them have been reasonably attractive, but some weren’t.
I am an architecture major, and I was told that the workload would decrease in my later years as the weeding out process would stop. Unfortunately I got a really hard studio, and I have had to stop doing any of the social group or club stuff I was affiliated with. I can barely make it through my school stuff let alone worrying about any kid of social life. But it is really starting to get to me. I have talked about it with people, and they just keep telling me be yourself, and it’ll come when it’s time. I am not a passive person I don’t believe in getting results by sitting back. I don’t want to be uptight because I worry about it but I do. there may be some truth to what they’re saying, but it can only make me feel better after so many times saying it.
I try to smile and say hi or introduce myself(at appropriate times) to girls I pass by or meet. I am surprised though at how many people stare at the ground while walking around campus.
I am also afraid that I will get to a point where if a girl finds out how inexperienced I am, I will just look like a freak.
It also doesn’t help that I have had friends who ask for relationship advice and what I tell them works so therefore they keep coming back as it keeps working and it’s torture. It’s like some higher power is playing a sick joke on me.
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I Just Turned 21, I’ve Never Had A Girlfriend, I’ve Never Hooked Up, Or Even Kissed A Girl, What Do I Do?
Posted on September 27, 2010.
Grow a sack or kill yourself
well if your desperate. your title is your answer…your 21 go have fun before you settle down.
Yeah it seems really hard right now, but just hold on. Don’t feel rushed to get into a relationship because everyone else is, it’ll come at the right time.
I don’t think a girl would freak out if she found out you were inexperienced. In fact, I’m sure she would be thrilled and extremely happy that she found someone who saved himself for that one girl instead of giving himself to every girl out there who wanted to have sex. Keep it up man. Don’t feel pressured to have sex just because some girls demand it. In my opinion, they are really just selfish people who want to use your body for their self-pleasure and couldn’t give a damn about your heart.
YOU ARE A CLONE OF ME!!!! Well almost, except I’m taller, younger, and weigh less.
Dude, you should become a bouncer at a nightclub. I worked at one for ONE DAY and started picking up that personality of those cool doormen. They can literally pick up ANY chick. On a more serious note, maybe look up David DeAngelo. I’ve watched a few of his videos and he offers a few useful tips.
if you can’t get any girls u can always settle for em fags!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!…
could be a number of different things mass people tried to tell me i was a fag ha ha. definitely not that it was never in the question after reading a little i found out that my sexuality if that’s what you wanted to call it was an aromantic asexual i have always had problems attaching to people let alone trying form a relationship with some ***** who just wants your dick and your money. anyways if its in your destiny it will happen just ride it out your torturing your self by trying to make it happen let the universal energies take care of all that crap just go about living your life for yourself right now because that’s what seems to make you comfortable. Holla. quit listening to all these men and woman that have had like 50 relationships a piece because they feel insecure if they dont have a significant other.
The athleticism you mentioned is the key to meeting women. You are very busy as an architect and have no time to go to social clubs or other groups. However, you should still work out on a regular basis because it relieves stress. The cycle of work overload can be detrimental to engineers and architects. I have worked for many years as an engineer and witnessed heart disease related to stress among older engineers in middle age. The best way to beat such stress is regular exercise. The elevated blood flow and body movements escalate endorphins, which are the body’s natural chemicals to fight pain. If you don’t have time to play a long soccer match or team sport, then I would recommend just working out for about 30 minutes 3-6 times a week. During such cardio workouts go to a gym that has many women (like a college gym during aerobics sessions). Trust me, you WILL MEET WOMEN WHO ARE NICE. I did despite being a busy engineer. Brief workouts can relieve stress and allow you to meet women. There are many nice women who also like to workout to relieve stress from a busy workload. I know from experience. The gym is a great place to meet women. Just be yourself and don’t advertise too heavily. The natural progression will come. I met my friend on the cardio machines (literally).
It’s okay I feel ya. I am 22 and am in the same kinda situation. I was homeschooled so have been very sheltered and struggle with shyness. Also I haven’t been out much and don’t meet many new people. I think you just need to find someone you think may interest you or is interested and flirt with them.