I’m due to give birth in June and i’m 23yo. I regret falling pregnant (although, I still love my little baby and am quite looking forward to being a Mum) without establishing some type of niche in a career. I’m finding with the worries of the pregnancy and buying our first house, planning a wedding, that although I wanted all these things in life, I never developed a career. I jumped from degree to degree in the earlier years of my life, took a few yrs off from studying but have finally decided to go with Primary School teaching. I’m not having any luck in getting the prerequisites required and now fretting about will I ever really have a career. I can’t afford to physically attend Uni (I would do a degree online) as we can’t afford childcare and my partner wants me to stay as a stay at home mum until bub goes to school.
Have any other mums or even dads gone through this type of dilemma….and how do you go about working it out?
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Have Many Stay At Home Mums/dads Or Any Parents Have This Problem?
Posted on January 10, 2011.
Raising your kid will keep you good and busy. Enjoy it; they grow up fast. Read when you have time and explore your options, find something you have a real passion for. If your partner wants you to stay at home until the kid goes to school, consider yourself lucky, you have a luxury that not everyone has.
seems to me a natural progression would be child care, u have 1.The minute u become a mother is the minute u gave up a career, unless ur ok with ur kid learning and developing other peoples ideals and moral values. Ur in a situation where your the sum of the equation of what happens if you dont get ur education before motherhood and parenthood, did ur parents always say to u, dont do this and that, get an education first? Mine did, and I listened to them and now I am able to reap the rewards of good advice. And I can enjoy life. That said it is never to late tore-educate yourself, thing with long distance learning is 1) finding the time, it will be hard with a new born trust me, and 2) Keeping motivated, at least in a class environment you have ur peers and their support. If u watched 16 and pregnant, most or all of them tried to finish their high school diploma, while being a mother and that s nothing compared to the workload of uni, none of them were able to complete it and they are on the road to . . . poverty.Bad choices and silly decisions, even now in the third season, they are still immature, have broken relationships, and struggling making stupid decisions. But your not going to walk that road, u are going to succeed, cos u have a dependant now, that kid will be counting on you, and u have a lot to teach him her and hopefully they will get good advice from u, the parent. I say if you are failing the pre-requisites, then start at the bottom and work your way up, if that means high school diploma, then thats where u start. The greatest journey began with, the first step.
I can relate since i am a stat at home mom as well. The first 2 years are tough so many thoughts going through your mind about your career, your child/children and your sanity. My husband has assured me that he will take care of us any way he has to to keep me home, he does have a degree and i have to believe him and have faith. Right now there is no career for me but that dosnt mean thier cant be one later. And the joy of spending these days with my children and not missing anything is one of the best gifts any mother could have. I would not change it for the world. Just have faith in your husband and have faith in yourself. Best Wishes and Goodluck..