First off, I’m not suicidal or a crazed lunatic! I’m a single 30 yr old male and over the last few months I’ve gone from being TERRIFIED of the very thought of my own mortality to actually accepting it as a release from this miserable world. I’ve got a LOT of health issues (nerve damage, a limp, constant chronic pain, hip problems, and terrible anxiety to top it off) and while there is no reason to believe I’m dying any sooner than anyone else, what was a phobia now seems like an upcoming vacation. I even bought a niche for my ashes near where Johnny Cash (my hero) is buried. I just want to know if this seems like “normal” behavior to an outside party or a sign that I might need some help. Thanks!
P.S. I’m hoping all the trolls will draw from what little soul they have and help me out here, or at least not bog the posting down with smarta$$ comments!
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Is It Healthy To Welcome Death?
Posted on February 14, 2011.
i dont know ur true intentions but if death is for a worthy cause…treat it like sugar. but if it’s just for release from this world then ure passing an opputunity that u should sieze. ure a 30 yr old man and u know better than to pass an oppurtunity.
think about it… is death the best and only way to stop from suffering the pain of this world? i think not. there’s tonnes to do in this world and u should take all the lemons that this world gives u to make… well.. lemonade 😀
plus, if u believe in the afterlife, u gotta be NUTS to say i wanna die because this world’s painful. use this world to gain good deeds and u can go to heaven.
if u don’t believe in that stuff, u may want to consider it.
People with health issues, or terminal illness, or chronic illness often go through certain stages before coming to the acceptance of their end of life or about the illness (or chronic pain) that they will or may suffer with until they day they pass on. Seeing death as a release from the pain and/or depression associated with these things. You are indeed very normal, and have now hit the stage where you shouldn’t be in denial, angry, or anything else negative for you. Congratulations, you have come to not fear dying. I myself, still am terrified of it. However, I look forward to the day that it no longer scares me.
Many humans go through this, most just are not lucky enough to be as smart about it as you are, or to accept it and no longer dwell on the fears of dying or the afterlife. Maybe now you can start enjoying your life more, and do the things that your body will allow that you find pleasurable 🙂
I do think some counseling or group support for the health issues and physical pain, and anxiety would help you enjoy your time more though. Especially group. Focus on how to enjoy your life, because death as you now know – is the easy part of living.
I’ll answer by saying it’s probably abnormal to “FEAR” death. If you are obsessing over death, or find yourself “wanting” to die, then I’d say it’s abnormal. If, by way of the Health conditions you mentioned you’ve found that you have somehow found an inner peace to knowing that one day it will end…then I’d say it’s healthy.
Put it this way, have you heard of Randy Paush? Smart Carnegie Mellon professor that was diagnosed with a terminal disease. He gave his “Last Lecture” when he was at his healthiest point in his disease phase…knowing that soon, he’d wither away and die (in a matter of months)–it said it was the strangest case of cognitive dissonance he’s had in life. I’d encourage you to watch his Video (if you have not)–as I think it’s about the Healthiest approach to knowing he was going to die and his way of saying “goodbye” during his “Last Lecture”.