I was recently at a rather fancy wedding recently. The central group was the friends and family of the bride and groom and then there were a large number of affiliates (business partners and a few direct relatives of business partners like me). Id say around 100 attendees. And there was a bar in the room before the dinning room and also a bar in the dinning room. All drinks were free.
I’m wondering what kind of drinks I am supposed to order before the dinner and after the dinner.
For example, I had some white russians before the dinner. Is it bad to order white russians before dinner?
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Drinking Etiquette At Wedding?
Posted on May 12, 2011.
Absolutely no one is going to be monitoring what drinks you have. As long as you continue to eat and can hold your liquor, then have what you want.
Are you asking what you should have done, or what you should do at the next occasion?
Either way, order no more than one drink before the dinner. It’s a wedding reception, not a cocktail party. Plan what you drink, so it will be compatible with a glass of wine with dinner, OR one after-dinner liqueur. Let the other people get slopped up. You stop at two drinks.
Here’s a link to a Wikipedia article about White Russian cocktails. At the end, there’s a list of appropriate before-dinner and after-dinner cocktails. White Russians are listed in the after-dinner category, probably because they are more “rich” than “dry”.
You can order what ever you want, there is no etiquette and just because there is a bar doesn’t mean you have to order a drink let alone an alcoholic one.
Depending on how you hold your liquor, 1-2 drinks will suffice before dinner. Your problem seems to be in your choice of drinks as a White Russian is a sweet after dinner drink. I would suggest a cranberry and good quality vodka (you may even ask for a leaf of mint in the drink) for all before dinner drinks and make certain you don’t get drunk or even foolish as this is not your time, it’s the brides and the bride will know and hold it against you for your life.
Order no more than you can handle. As an adult, you should know your tolerance. This a social occasion, not a opportunity for heavy drinking.
It doesn’t matter what you order, nobody cares. All they care about is if you get drunk and make a fool out of yourself