I am in my second semester of my Sophomore year in college. I have people to sit with in class, people who I do community service with (I’m in a community service club) people I feel comfortable texting to go to the gym, study with, or get food with but, I don’t have any close friends. I don’t really have anyone to hang out with. On Friday and Saturday nights I usually end up studying by myself and I just feel like a complete loser. At this point everyone already found their niche and has a concrete group of close friends. I feel like unless you are really outgoing (which I am not) it is almost impossible to inject yourself into an already formed group of friends and become part of that group. I feel incredibly lonely here because i don’t have any satisfying relationships with people. Nobody really cares about me here since I am not part of anyone’s close friends group. I am just that extraneous friend that is nice to have but nobody really needs.
College is supposed to be a great experience where people figure out who they are, experiment, and have a ton of fun. I feel like I am missing out on everything that is wonderful about college. At this point, I want to graduate already and put college behind me. I wish I didn’t feel that way but I do. I am frustrated that making close friends is so hard for me. I feel like everyone else kind of makes friends naturally and has an easy time “clicking” and connecting with people. It is supposed to be fairly easy to make friends in college. I am so scared that if I can’t make close friends in college how am I going to make friends after I graduate? Making friends usually gets harder when you get older. I just wish I didn’t have to worry about all this. All my friends from High school made a ton of close friends in college and they are all having a great time. Everyone always looks forward to going back to school after breaks and dread it. What is wrong with me?