i am so much depressed that he always mention me that i am fat,do dieting and go to gym,i know he is saying for my good only,but i am feeling its too much now,he is always back of me even if i eat he observes me,even if i go to gym n being good in diet he still sees me like i am some idiot cow,we are not at all happy married couple now,what to do im pcos but i have obesity problem since my childhood,all my life comments,humiliating,for my marraige i went to some slimming centres n lost weight,but it came up back again,now by his frustration i started secret eating,and i am fed up i am becoming more worse not doing diet at all,before i sleep,he says me off,and in the morning he says me ,u cant understand a simple thing that dieting and exercise works,i have a 20 months child now,he says to my daughter that im mad,he is so comfort that i will not divorce bcoz we got a child,in my community once u got a child,u should stay with hil until u die,even my dad he says try to adjust,try to become thin,im 29 he says me i m old now i cant get another man,ur out of market,he makes me feel that i m a useless stone in world,then i argues with him to make it worse first of all think of ur faults not pointing at others,he smokes,drinks,i say ok u stop smoking,i will stop eating sweets,but he says smoking is nothing he knows his limits,but i am a bullshitter that i eat sweets,in my mind every morning i think,oh today i should be good n take care of my health,i want to become thin,but n the morning itself he starts u will never change,i really want to die,but what about my child,i know i amm not fit,even if i die the next month he will try to find another wife and mom to my child(probably thin one),what to do shall i go for some surgery like stomach stiching or something,bcos he is killing me with his words,i feel now very ugly,and the more he criticize me i will more eat badfoods stop gym,i dont know food is my comfort only my friend,can u advise me to what to do plzz,or i should just die so that like me ugly creature will be no more in between beautifull people,can u advise me good easy way to die plzz..and ofcourse i AM doing in my life is bcoz he wishes ,bcoz i dont have any interest anymore i am a blank mind with just food…..
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No.
No way! NEVER let a man make you want to your life in that case he is not a good husband he is a loser!
Your secret eating is due to depression because you are being abused by your husband.
Seek help for your depression first.
He is being a jerk. Unless he stops drinking and smoking then you don’t care what he says and you should make fun of him anything.
If this don’t work maybe you should leave because he married you this way and now after a kid he is being a jerk. If you want you can try counseling for both of you if not and nothing at all work it is better to move on and when you do lose weight then and then go meet good looking guys and just have fun, If no any any above Get a good lawyer with NO upfront fee and LOW fees. There are many lawyers, you need to call around. Make sure his expertise in divorce and he has a long good history. Get alimony and child support and you will be ok.
This is the only way he will see and change when you move on for your better.
On another note: Try your best. Love like you never love before. This is the best way for love to come and start surrounding your life. May love be around you, through you and is you.
Love and the Good Life will come
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