im 22 years old i turn 23 in december. im 2 months pregnant and single. first of all last year i had an operation on my ovaries and was told i may not be able to ever get pregnant. me and my boyfrend are no longer together he knows about me being pregnant and keeps saying im making a mistake by keeping the baby. every day i wake up with a different opinion. im not in the career i want and dont want have a baby at this age and stay on benefits until i find my niche. my ex boyfrend already has another child and i dont want to be his second “baby mother”. when i first found out i was pregnant i was really happy until i started telling ppl and then i had doubts in my head. i love travelling and if i have a baby i wont be able to i cant help feeling very alone right now i have an abortion consultation on monday and my scan on the 20th november ( my ex boyfrends birthday) lol strange i could really do with some advice…….. in desperate need of help.
I’m 17, turning 18 in early April, and I’m 4 1/2 months pregnant. The baby’s father and I are engaged, but the way we’re fighting, who knows how long we’re going to last. I’m due March 23, 2013. I’m a junior in high school, and trying to find a job since my baby’s father isn’t quite on the ball about it. I chose to keep my baby because I know with the support from my friends and family, I can do it. By reading your story above, I think you can do it. Just have confidence in yourself, and love your baby. I wouldn’t care about being his second “baby mama” as long as I have my baby to love, and to love me in return. Good luck!
I’m not against abortions but
1) You are not a teenager
2) You have been told you may not be able to get pregnant… what if the chance doesn’t come around again?
3) Maybe as you get farther along if you really don’t want a child, you could bless a family with the child by giving it up for adoption.
Best of luck to you
Keep it I made the terrible decision to abort once & felt at the time it was the right thing was 100% sure of my decision then but I’ve regretted it every single day since!! Hated myself & went though a really terrible time following it!! Think long an hard about it!
me personally.. i’d keep the baby.. once you experience motherhood you’ll love every moment.
I suggest you to keep your baby. Do not abort them. After giving birth you will forget everything what you did. so give birth.
keep it
in your case i would keep it. like you said you shouldn’t even be pregnant right now. this is your chance, maybe your only chance to be a mom. yes it is not ideal timeing but how would you feel if 5 years from now everything was in place and you really wanted a baby and find out you aborted your one chance? this happens more than you think, there isn’t an “i can always have another” for everyone, one of my friends gave her baby up for adoption because she was a teenager and no one supported her. luckily she got pregnant again shortly after and kept the next one because she developed fertility issues at 21 and can no longer have children, i think she would have committed suicide had she given away her one and only chance to be a mom just because the timeing wasn’t right, because everyone promised her she would grow up and have more.
Abortion is murder, if you choose to abort you will always regret it. First, when they are taken out of you after being killed an aborted baby is basically the most horrifying thing you will ever see. Second, right after having a baby is one of the happiest times you’ll ever have. Third, you will be able to travel – just not as much – so don’t worry about that. Fourth, don’t feel lonely because your never alone, God has always loved you and always will love you even with your mistakes, because He is loving.
I hope this helps.
It’s not surprising that your ex boyfriend would want you to get an abortion because he doesn’t want to pay maintanance. You need to decide for yourself. Sometime we have dreams about how we want our lives to turn out and what we want to achieve, but sometimes, blessings can come in a different and unexpected way. I think you started getting doubts after you told people because reality started to hit home and you realized how many of your dreams you gonna have to give up or postpone. It’s only natural to feel that way. You say you have an appointment with a consultant. First go there and hear what he/she has to say, then weigh your options against each other. Being a mother requires sacrifices and there are many mothers who have been in your situation, and opted to keep the baby, and are happy with no regrets. It’s not the end of the world – it’s only the beginning of a new chapter for you.