I am a 21 year old college student, and I am “just there”. My friends all play a part in the mixture of personalities and interests, but I have nothing. People often comment (even though it’s jokingly it’s true), on the fact that I have no talents. I do poorly in school, have a lot of financial stress, and it’s hard for me to focus on developing some sort of hobby or talent. I’m not athletic, I used to play trumpet but was awful and don’t play anymore, I’m out of shape, and all I’m good for is partying with everyone. What should I do?
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All Of My Friends Have Found Their Own “niche”, But I Just Don’t Know Who I Am. Someone Help?
Posted on December 7, 2012.
you have friends, and you party. so you’re probably charismatic. that’s somewhat of a talent.
I feel as though this is a crisis many of us face at this age/point in our lives. Being in college is always a huge stressor, plus the added financial woes don’t help much either. The way I have had to look at it is as follows: College has put me in a box. There is an expectation for me to know exactly what I want to do with my life and commit to it right now. However, lots of us change our majors over and over again; isn’t it a bit of a sign that not everyone knows exactly who they are right away? College just provides another routine and can limit the types of experiences we can have.
My best advice is to just stick it out for now, your financial situation may benefit from you finishing college. Then, you’ll be able to better finance small adventures that may help you find who you are. Listen to a different genre of music, watch a random documentary on TV. If your college campus hosts any sort of activities, just go. That “aha” moment could be waiting for you anywhere, you just have to motivate yourself to take a chance and find it.
Everyone has their own talents to discover and skills to improve. I was going to start college this year to work on computers. I just lost interest and dropped out before freshmen orientation. However, I recently discovered that I’m so good at playing guitar that I could make money by writing a series of guitar guides on Thrash/Death Metal. Life surprises you sometimes. Just find out who you are. I suggest taking up a new hobby, and revisiting old ones. Reading interesting books on spiritual growth (i.e. The God Component) is never a bad idea either.
some people take a long time to find that one special thing that they are good at! you are probably better at the social aspects of life than talent aspects, but having a hobby you have to really enjoy it other wise your tourchering yourself by doing something you don’t enjoy just focus on your friends and about having a good time not being good at everything you do
Here’s an idea. Spend some time away from partying. Avoid games and TV. Give yourself some nothing time. In a little while, you should feel like doing things. See what appeals to you then.
People say hobbies are good for boredom, but I think what’s best is responsibilities. Maybe you could join a club or do volunteer work.