I have a really close friend (but we’re not a couple) and I’ve been trying really hard not to hide my thoughts or emotions from her, and whenever we have an issue I try to calmly speak my side on it. I heard that it is really important to women you are close to to feel like you are talking to them from your heart and that they can do the same with you. that is what I was trying to do… but she hates it.
She has actually called me a terrible person and has been generally cruel to me ever since I started being real with her. I don’t think it’s one of those “she only wants what she can’t have” scenarios, because she’s not like that at all. She wants me to be fake and to hide everything, but i can’t do that now, it isn’t natural. Bottom line- she cannot stand me, and I don’t know what to do. Can you offer a suggestion?
And yes, I am going to copy and paste this question into all of the niches of yahoo answers that it could apply to.
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I Communicate, But She Doesn’t Like It At All?
Posted on December 21, 2012.
No worries please. You are not alone with this matter. People are not perfect and we differ in many aspects. If she can’t accept you as you, then don’t force it. We can never please everyone as no matter how hard we try at being good, nice, kind and helpful to people, they still tend to misunderstand us or disappreciate us. Don’t think too much about people’s opinion of you. What matters most is that you are doing all the good you can to adjust, but believe me whatever is natural will come out and you can;t fake the truth. As long as you are honest and true to yourself, then leave it. She should know better to correct her own flaws too and appreciate a true friend. I have had problems with some friends and they tend to tell me that I’m too honest. They said that sometimes one has to lie to which I disagree. I didn’t taught my kids to be half honest, but to be 100 % honest and it’s right.
We like to hear the truth about things but if you are telling her things that may be uncomfortable to her, then that might be the reason she hates it. Not entirely everything has to be open. Be careful what you are telling her.
If you want a friend you can confide in have a friend. True Friends through out life can generally be counted on the fingers of one hand. The rest are just close acquaintances. She’s and acquaintance.