Hi, Im 19 and my boyfriend of 1 year has just finished with me. We met when he was working in the market near my school. His friend liked me but I liked him. Any way we are both from Muslim families and that means we don’t get to see each other as much as other couples would. My father has a clothes business and often travels to Europe to buy clothes and I go with him so he can keep an eye on me. Which means that I used to see my boyfriend, once maybe twice a month. We don’t see each other in Ramadan either. I’ve bought him bck clothes a couple of times and we would go to his friends apartment to snatch a couple of hours with each other. Im not allowed a phone so I sort of turn up at the market when I’m free. We’ve kept our relationship secret as his friend liked me. Anyway to get to the point we would only have sex when we met each othere and we’ve only gone out for a coffee once. I’m aware he sees other girls but I thought I was the one he would end up with. He knows how I feel about him but he has never told me how he feels about me. The other week we got into a fight and he ended it, I asked how he could just throw a year away and he said it meant nothing. I sent my friends to his house (I have relatives in his area so can’t be seen) and his Mum answered (big shame as she obviously didn’t know about us) and she laughed in there faces. I’ve gone to the market but he ignores me, it turned out his friend knew all along about us and was laughing at my stupidity. But is it possible that a man could just use you like that for a year?? He is 20. I thought he’d be more grown up than that? Was I really nothing for him? I’m hurting so much, he has already moved on to another girl and I just feel like ****. i asked his friend for his number and he just laughed at me.
I literally know how you feel! i was in a very similar situation for FOUR years :l. You can never change a man! and it is going to hurt like hell and your gonna find it so hard sometimes, maybe even unbearable, your even going to want to keep trying with him, but don’t.
Guys like that they just genuinely do not care. Which shows that they aren’t worth it. He is disrespectful – if he can’t respect his religion which teaches respect women then he can’t respect anything and believe me he will reap what he sows. Don’t speak to him or his friend. Ignore them like they ignore you. But in the midst of this do not try and get revenge, STAY CLASSY!
Don’t even feel for a second jealous or upset that he is got a new girl, he is just using her too! I know the type he’ll sleep with every girl, same lines, same game. And then eventually get married to someone his mom chooses. And even then he’ll cheat on his wife – like i said disrespectful.
Pick yourself up and be strong, keep your head up and remember that when you come out the end of this you will be a stronger, wiser person and no man will ever have the power to hurt you again. Believe me, it WILL make you stronger! Everyone makes mistakes (trust me, i’ve made them all) but keep going forward, and never look back, he is not worth it.
Just keep busy and don’t dwell on it, pray to god to give you the strength to stay away from bad guys and abstain from sex before marriage. The next time you meet a guy (because of this scumbag), you’ll know all the signs. Get with a guy who respects you, takes you out, treats you like a princess and asks your dad for your hand and makes you his wife before doing anything psychical. A guy who who has strong deen and helps you perfect yours. That’s a true man. Don’t settle for anything less.
xo
Sorry to say but it does sound like he was using you. The fact that he was seeing other girls at the same time could have told you that already. You were in love with him and that made you vulnerable to his advances and made it (in a way) easy for him to use you. You just weren’t seeing things clearly.
Then came the point you had an argument, probably meaning you didn’t do what he wanted to. So he got rid of you as that was much easier for him.
I know it hurts and it will for a while longer, but eventually you will realise such a jerk isn’t worth your tears or the pain and you will get over it. His age has nothing to do with it as you will find immature people (not just men) at all ages unfortunately.
Hope this helps.
Wow..I’m sorry for your pain. If you’re heart’s been broken, it can take awhile to heal. Just hold in there. I know it’s tough.
We can’t know what he was thinking or feeling, but, unfortunately, yes, guys can do stuff like that without thinking that’s it’s a big deal. I hate to say it, and it’s not a popular opinion in our society anymore, but it really is better to wait until marriage. Guys WILL use you if you give yourself away and not think anything of it. If they don’t commit through marriage, they’re not gonna commit without it. A lot of guys just think of it as a game.
He’s not worth being hurt over, but unfortunately, emotions aren’t that easy to control in those cases. The best thing is to find a friend to go do things with to help get your mind off of him and to try not to think about it. Sorry.
Damn that ***** gamed(played) you so hard. He was flawless.
this guy is a douche. you did a stupid thing giving your puC to him…forget him and move on. muslim guys are creeps