Okay so we are a young engaged couple who have been together for well over two years. She has always had a very short temper and also has a family history of bi-polar. In our past shes honestly left me and tried to move on with another guy which only lasted a few days and nothing really happened with him and her and I patched things up. The reason we broke up was because shes a very strong believer in hating Adult material. I did watch this stuff and she found out (needless to say, I really dont watch it. I promised I wouldnt and after so long has gone by I have no desire).
Now for somereason shes changing. She is VERY moody and actually takes everything out on me and only me, everyone else is completely fine. Also, by anything I mean everything! any bad mood or anything negative comes my way.
She has also started accusing me of watching/looking at porn again.. and doing things behind her back to do with anything from a video/picture to a bad movie or even anything anywhere related to something bad. ( examples – today a commercial of a half naked girl came on tv and me not paying attention blindly was gocking at the tv while I was focusing on conversating with someone. She literally flipped out and made me leave her place because she insisted I was making googly eyes with her… , I also added a page that was supposed to be a joke on facebook called “she wants the D”, she is instantly assuming that I was trying to see something bad ” you knew something bad would come up why would you search that?!!!”)
I do everything to see her usually 4-5 times per week and we stay together around 2 nights depending on the week.
I just dont know what to do.
I even have a google account logged in on my laptop and phone soshe can see anything im doing online from videos/images. to basic search history and results I specificaly clicked on and even how long I was on these pages/content.
She literally does not trust me and basicaly the only way to prove to her isnt even one of the million sit down talks we have, she must simply be with me 24/7 and have access to my thoughts…. I really do love her and this isnt how it was. Recently this has started up and I really want some opinions/ideas/answers/related sitatuions anything…
Thank you in advance..
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Newly Fiance Doesnt Believe Me And Is Acting Very Strange?
Posted on February 21, 2013.
This is a difficult question to answer. A lot of women of any age feel dejected and rejected as a female when their partners watch adult material. I am now 33, but when younger I felt the same. This made me also feel paranoid that I could not satisfy my partner. Perhaps she may feel the same. I am now 33 and now no longer feel this way. You did not state here age. Also if she sufferers Bi-Polar, the mood changes could be caused by that and perhaps her finding this adult material has triggered something physiologically for her that she is unable to express?. This may be difficult for you to deal with her moods at the moment, but you are doing the right thing to try and reassure her. Your Fiances trust will hopefully come back. Maybe she is also worried that your not satisfied and will start too look at other women and leave her. Hopefully with your support, her insecurities will dissipate. I hope this is helpful for you……..As you have now stated your ages, it makes more sense. You have both been together since early teens. All these feelings are normal from both of you. It is difficult for her regarding trust and stressful for you feeling you are being monitored 24/7. The best way to resolve this is probably keep on communicating with one and other. Give it time and respect her views on adult material and explain that the constant monitoring of your privacy is intrusive etc. Hope this helps
of course she does not belive your trust you. most people when asked if someone still watches porn, they would say that everyone does and its not possible to stop. basically she and you both need to understand what is involved in porn and how to overcome it,. this is written in a boook. if you have managed to ignore he problem so that you are focused on other life matters that is great. i suggest get the book and learn more indpth about it, and also inform her about what is actually going on in porn. but if she is unwilling, then you can do this on your own. mnay women feel as though they must be lacking something if the men look at porn. so it really hrts their sef esteem. however thye must be taught that why the men are pullled is because iof minsd manipulation. Also obviously she needs to work on trust.