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I’m not very happy here at the University of Iowa, so I am considering transferring to Wisconsin. I’m only worried because it is another big 10, but my brother goes there and I have some friends over there already. Plus it is a better school academically which is one of my concerns about Iowa. Has anyone gone through this before?
I haven’t quite found my niche here at iowa yet, I think it might be because I came with a good friend. I have no problem making friends, but I feel like people do not care about studying here and only care about drinking, which is fun but I want a school that is a bit more focused.

I have a very good friend name Armena that goes to my church and has all 25 years of her life. Her mother is American and her father I believe is from Turkey. Her parents dont attend the church, but her grandparents on her mothers side do and they have taken her to the church all 25 years of her life. Although her mother doesnt attend, her mother has since 1978, given money to support a missionary affiliated with the church who does work in India. The church treasurer, is very nosy and gossipy and rather than go to this girls grandparents that attend, the treasurer said to Armena, “Would your mom be interested in writing (Rebecca, the Missionary). Rebecca called me and feels that because of your fathers faith, that she cant contact your mom, since she has seen some men overseas you were abusive to their wifes”. This upset my friend Armena and the treasurer said “This is just between us” but what the treasurer meant was that she was to “keep it between us” but the treasurer could go around the church and blab about what this lady said to everyone else. My friend told her grandparents how hurt she was, so at a ladies prayer meeting, the grandmother said please pray for my granddaughter she has been hurt very badly by someone at the church. The ministers wife who isnt discreet and talks a lot (knew who her grandmother meant) even though no names were mentioned and went and told the church treasurer that. Armena stayed away from this woman who she was friendly with before, until she said that to her.
The church treasurer was angry when the pastors wife told her that and also going around telling everyone that Armena has been ignoring her, and they (the treasurer and Armena) were on friendly terms before that, so the treasurer wrote a nasty email to Armena and said:
“I was wanting to take up this issue with you and your grandparents, but since you were the one I orignally talked to, I thought I would email you. I am not sure what you told your grandmother but I happened to find out by accident that your grandma went to someone else in church and was complaining about me upsetting her granddaughter. I am very disappointed that I wanted to relay something good and exciting since this missionary wanted to tell your mom all she was able to do with the money your mom gave her, and you chose to turn it into something ugly. I am sorry my friendship with you meant so little that you would choose to not even come around me”.
A few months went by, and the treasurer angrily came to her grandmother and said “I have been told twice by two other parishioners that I was not to come to you about this, but I am angry and I will” and she told the grandmother, your granddaughter owes me an apology, she avoided me after I talked to her” The granddaughter talked to her nicely and said she never mentioned names she mentioned in a ladies prayer meeting that her granddaughter had been hurt and to pray for her so she wouldnt leave the church.
Well after all this, my friend Armena has left the church. My question is:
1) Obviously this wasnt handled well. But who is wrong in this case, the church treasurer or Armena? Naturally I dont think its Armena’s fault
2) What could have been done more properly in this situation so Armena wouldnt have left?

Who was right/wrong in this situation?
I have a very good friend name Armena that goes to my church and has all 25 years of her life. Her mother is American and her father I believe is from Turkey. Her parents dont attend the church, but her grandparents on her mothers side do and they have taken her to the church all 25 years of her life. Although her mother doesnt attend, her mother has since 1978, given money to support a missionary affiliated with the church who does work in India. The church treasurer, is very nosy and gossipy and rather than go to this girls grandparents that attend, the treasurer said to Armena, “Would your mom be interested in writing (Rebecca, the Missionary). Rebecca called me and feels that because of your fathers faith, that she cant contact your mom, since she has seen some men overseas you were abusive to their wifes”. This upset my friend Armena and the treasurer said “This is just between us” but what the treasurer meant was that she was to “keep it between us” but the treasurer could go around the church and blab about what this lady said to everyone else. My friend told her grandparents how hurt she was, so at a ladies prayer meeting, the grandmother said please pray for my granddaughter she has been hurt very badly by someone at the church. The ministers wife who isnt discreet and talks a lot (knew who her grandmother meant) even though no names were mentioned and went and told the church treasurer that. Armena stayed away from this woman who she was friendly with before, until she said that to her.
The church treasurer was angry when the pastors wife told her that and also going around telling everyone that Armena has been ignoring her, and they (the treasurer and Armena) were on friendly terms before that, so the treasurer wrote a nasty email to Armena and said:
“I was wanting to take up this issue with you and your grandparents, but since you were the one I orignally talked to, I thought I would email you. I am not sure what you told your grandmother but I happened to find out by accident that your grandma went to someone else in church and was complaining about me upsetting her granddaughter. I am very disappointed that I wanted to relay something good and exciting since this missionary wanted to tell your mom all she was able to do with the money your mom gave her, and you chose to turn it into something ugly. I am sorry my friendship with you meant so little that you would choose to not even come around me”.
A few months went by, and the treasurer angrily came to her grandmother and said “I have been told twice by two other parishioners that I was not to come to you about this, but I am angry and I will” and she told the grandmother, your granddaughter owes me an apology, she avoided me after I talked to her” The granddaughter talked to her nicely and said she never mentioned names she mentioned in a ladies prayer meeting that her granddaughter had been hurt and to pray for her so she wouldnt leave the church.
Well after all this, my friend Armena has left the church. My question is:
1) Obviously this wasnt handled well. But who is wrong in this case, the church treasurer or Armena? Naturally I dont think its Armena’s fault
2) What could have been done more properly in this situation so Armena wouldnt have left?

Very long story, summed up.
So a few years ago a friend of mine and his brother had some rough family life and ended up living with us. Lets call them K and J. At the time J was still a minor (a month away from being 18) so for a while he was in the social services thingy and they determined it best for him to live with us since his brother (K) was already with us, plus he could go to the same school and all. AFter he lived with us for about 10 or so days we went to an outing out of town that we were all a part of. J hadn’t been affiliated with the group because his mom was nuts (that’s part of the family issues of theirs). For no reason during the outing J accused my dad of molesting him. It def never happened-I was there. But there was a police investigation and no charges were ever filed. But it was a living hell for a long time. That was all 3 years ago.
Here’s my dillema. If I have a single enemy in the world it would be J, and I think I’m justified in feeling that way. A good friend of mine (call her S) is now dating J. Her and J were friends years ago in high school and he treated her like crap and they bounced between being friends and hating each other. She knows about how he lied about that stuff 3 years ago. My and S are good friends but we havent talked, texted, or anything since she told me she was dating him. I really think that I miss her in my life. But I kind of feel betrayed. It’s messing with me. what should I do? please help.

ok so in high school a group of girls used to follow me around touch me innappropriately just harass and follow for a while. hell they even used to constantly check my fb page and quote my statuses on each others walls and take pictures of me sleeping in class. it was wierd. so we graduated and we lost touch except for the occasional times i posted on thier walls asking why they acted so strangely ro to explain specific actions they took. well time passed and that summer befoe college i was very vulnerable after dealing with some issues from my past one of the girls had began to talk to me through face book and i began to trust her. as time went on i fell for her but told her but she was falling for someone else i was happy for her but sad. then one day i saw her kiss the other guy and my heart actually hurt pysically worrse then anything i ever felt i cut off contact since i couldnt be a good friend or get over her while she was in my life sent her a txt asking her to delete my number from her phone. no response from her. found it strange that she would even txt me back to see why i was cutting her off especially since she was the one and only person i talked to about my past and how badly it messed me up. so i got past the pain and after a few months i got back in touch with her. i began to notice that if i didnt contact her first we wouldnt talk and that the very rare few times she contacted me first she always had friends with her. then she went back to her old harassing stalker ways and with our friendship alreay being rocky and volatile at best i cut her off for another month second i got back in touch i got an aim saying hey whats up they randome keys came across the chat window and then she (her account) begane to talk alot of thrash. i knew that she went comepletely back to her old tricks from highschool once again out to mess with me.so i decided not to dignify her insults with a response and hit her and her group where it hurts access to my fb page i blocked her and anyone affiliated with her. months passed and i slowly unblocked her friends one by one since i made my page completely private. one of them msged me saying how the girl i had cared about missed me and wanted to get in touch. i ignored and blocked her friends again. months passed and my friend contacts me saying the girl i liked (ill call her abby from now on) wanted to talk to me. i unblocked her msged her and went days without a response considering she was so persistant about talking to me but doesnt reply back i got mad i told her everything i thought about her her friends and what she did to me. she finally replied “i wasnt the one trash talking you so calm down u have no reasont o be mad at me” needless to say abby’s msg enraged me so i went off on her saying stuff im not proud of she deserved every foul word i said but i still felt like garbage about it. so another month passed and abby once again contacted me trying to get me to friend her on fb i told her i wasnt the same kid she met in hs i didnt have low selfesteem anymore and i wont be used for some sick game. she said she changed to and that if i added her she wouldnt even try and talk to me. i declined her. since its obvious to me she wants to stalk my page. so my question is ladies do u think given this information that she at any point cared about me or my friendship or has my suspicions about her and her group been right..that i was just a pawn in her twisted game? at this point aside from still kinda being sexually attracted to her (shes pretty cant help it) im done with her dont talk to her dont want to date or hang out with her. i have a low opinion of her and pity her since to me her actions show how weak she is.
so do u girls think she ever cared aboutme or our friendship or was it all a game to her? do u think i took the right steps to end this game i mean no access to my page no kore stalking right?