*I’m also female by the way
I didn’t make any friends in my dorm freshman year. I think this is because most of these women were dumb, party-animal, airhead types. We were nice to each other and all, but I really don’t think anyone could have forced us to be friends. Now, this doesn’t mean I don’t ever party, but I’m by no means the stereotype of a female college student.
I’m a junior next fall, and I have made some friends, including two close friends, but I really don’t feel any stability with my social life. In other words, I don’t feel like I have a “core” or “base” that keeps me feeling socially secure. I truly feel like I’m on my own and have to fend for myself. In some ways this is great because I’m an introvert and so I can have my “space”. Yet, when I want that social closeness (either from a friendship or relationship) I don’t have it… What I really want and feel I’m missing in my life is a sense of social stability/security… I haven’t found a social niche, really. There is one group I’m friends with (and can say I’m part of for the most part), but it still isn’t providing that security in terms of my social life.
I guess I just don’t like that I have all these connections, but little solid or reliable social support and security. How do I change this? Meeting people at this school is a ridiculous challenge. With 55,000 undergrads, even people who have joined smaller clubs are fairly distant. The atmosphere around here makes it challenging to make close friends unless you were already from the area