I need advice on how to ask my best friend why she lost her virginity. Shes 17 and shes dating the most annoying, effin douche bag on the planet. All of her friends know this. Her parents HATE him. I mean doesnt that tell her something?? Anyway she got caught having sex she was keeping it a secret from everyone and became this 2 face lying ***** i must say. So she finally told everyone when she got caught and couldnt keep it a secret anymore. I honestly dont care that she did it I just wana know why she did it with him. Ugh i HATE him. He lies sooooo much hes the biggest liar in the world. He changed her as you can see. So anyway why do you think she did it?? Hes not romantic he tries to be but its all a lie. One time he bought her a necklace and said he went to Mexico and got it for her. Hes so stupid she went with him to the flea market when he got it and waited like 2 months to give it to her. So another thing im worried about is that she said she doesnt remember their “first time”. She blacks out but only when shes drunk so I dont understand why she would black out. I remember when she told me she said that he forced her now she denies it of course. After their first time he always snuck in just to have sex with her. Not to be romantic no just to screw her. He never brought protection and shes so stupid she agreed to still have sex. Shes not pregnant she took test and went to the doctor thank god. Last weekend she said they snuck to his house and they had sex. After being sooo lucky she did it. Like really! I would wait for months before doing it. It just pisses me off. Oh and to top it off the started doing it after 2WEEKS of dating. Ugh so i guess im asking what should i do?? Am i just angry?? Like i said i dont care that she did it. I’ve done it. Just why with him?? Or why is she still with him when she knows all of this stuff she admitted it to me. Is there something im missing?? I’ve seen him hit on other girls too! And he got kicked out of his church because there was a rumor about him saying that he was sleeping around with a girl. Now i wouldnt doubt it. He told her no and me no but honestly everything he says is a lie. So you dont know what to believe. Please help me. And sorry for it being so long.
Can’t really say for sure. She’s not too young but will be an adult soon. It could be for a lot of reasons, dumb or good, however she views it.
I respect the info but you probably know her better. Your just being too emotional and are letting your impulses get a hold off you.
I would talk to her, just have a chat with her. That’s what I would do, especially since you know her.
honestly speaking, i dont know why she did it. but since you know so much about why dont you persuade your frnd to see the reality. Ask her what she feels for him. try to be sensitive and ask her why she’s in that relationship, ask her if she’s afraid of the consequences of leaving him. try to b full support, dont advice or judge. maybe she’ll tell you her reasons.are you sure what you heard of him is the truth and its not biased coz you dont like him?
let me know when you’ve figured the mystery out ^-^
all the best
When people are in love, there’s nothing u can do. YOu see, when u are in love, what matters to us our partner. Friends no longer is an important option.
If you really want to help her, then i advice u to show her his true color .
Yes it was LONG, but its ok. I read through it all. I’m thinking either one of these 2 things are going on:
1) You’re just jealous of her n the fact that she has a bf n u dont.
OR
2) Ure gay n actually like her but havent come into terms with the whole gay idea.
I say stop worrying about crap that has nothing 2 do with u. U r asking about **** that doesn’t concern u…so u either do one of 2 things:
1) Get a boyfriend.
OR
2) Get a boyfriend
🙂
Well, is simple. He’s her first guy and she’s attracted by him these days. After a while she will start to see others too, but right now she’s only into the first one.
I had a friend like that in high school. Every time she would be on the right track, her douche bag boy friend would come crawling back and she would take him back. I begged and pleaded with her to try to understand that all he did was lie and cheat on her, but she just didn’t care to hear anything that put him down. What she saw in him I will never know, I still don’t. As teenagers, it’s just a phase certain people go through. Sometimes girls get with these scum bags because for some reason it makes them feel like a bad *** or something. It has to be a turn on I guess. Now, that friend and I are both almost 24 and she tells me, to this day, that she was an idiot. She regrets all that she did with him, and she regrets that she didn’t take my advice. Your friend’s situation isn’t something that you can change. All you can do is just continue to be her friend. Sometimes people just have to learn the hard way and in their own time. Keep reminding her that you dislike him, and also your reasoning for it. She will get her heart broken in due time and she will really need you. Things might be hard and it will definitely be hard for her to accept that she was wrong and you were right. Just give it time and be there for her. Good luck with your friend and if you need more advice, email me on my yahoo profile. Take care