Knowing that some readers would instantly jump to conclusions, I’m listing the following factors first:
1) I am only attracted to a very particular niche (unfortunately attraction is biological and there is nothing I could do to change this)
2) most girls see me as long term material the very first sight they see me (not trying to be arrogant here, but it’s true and oftentimes I wish it wasn’t)
3) I do not chase and I do not conform to play hard to get (to be fair, if I was sadistic enough, I would manipulate the situation so that they would chase me, so don’t get me started; and if they pester me enough about it, thinking it’s the only way the guy is interested or they are being selfish and get the guy to unnaturally become submissive, I would be more inclined to throw her/them out). Having said that, I don’t care who makes the first move, so long one of us does.
4) I uphold ethics and principles such that if she is looking for something completely different to what I am, e.g. I am considering whether she is someone I would date vs she thinking I am long term material, it’s no game and I break it off
5) I do not want people to change themselves because of me, because it seems fake and, if they put up with it over the long term, they could easily get depressed
6) I cannot stand shy girls i.e. can’t even talk to them properly or even be able to befriend them. (To be fair, they are too tensed to say anything properly to me and we keep getting moments of awkward silence anyway.)
7) I also reject girls on un-lady like behaviour and offensive remarks/assault (this is different from teasing). This would include manipulation and outright stupidity.
My mindset is to go out there and meet someone by chance and convenience. Having said that, I do ask friends for help and I do put myself on dating sites (no luck in either cases).
I go out to find women I am interested in and if we happen to click and look for the same thing. We go on a coffee date of some sort to know each other more (no romance involved until we are more familiar i.e. not point unless it’s genuine). If we do not naturally click, look for the same thing, or both, it’s game over and I move on. Ditto, if she violates any of the conditions stated above. No second chances.
Unfortunately the 7 conditions above will not change and do not change (trust me, I’ve tried it many times).
It’s not that I like sticking to a type, but I tend to feel very little, if any, attraction for anyone outside the niche.
From what you can tell, is there anything I am doing that is holding me back (other than the 7 conditions) or whether my mindset is a bit ‘off course’.
Cheers
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Is It Weird For A 26 Year Old To Never Had A Single Relationship With Anyone?
Posted on November 29, 2011.
I use to be like you. I know this won’t help, but just saying. I think you’ll realize soon.
No, it is not weird at all. *
Honestly I completely understand where you’re coming from.. but unfortunately wider society has this idea that everyone has to be in a relationship- but if that pressure doesnt bother you, when you meet someone youre interested in, your confidence about not caring about what others think will convince the girl its not an issue.
Everyone is different, and everyone has different priorities in life.. its so stupid that society upholds these beliefs about what is “normal”
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There is nothing particularly ‘wrong’ about your standards per se. Although obviously having those 7 conditions as a steadfast pillar of immoveable suitability has most likely reduced your chances of finding someone suitable all the way down to 1 in 10000. Now, think of it this way, in your lifetime you only meet a limited number of people. And between you current age and the age in which you are most likely to go out looking for relationships you will be looking at an even more limited number of people. Out of that group of people, you have around 1 in 10000 chance of finding the right person that fits all your 7 conditions, and we are still not counting external circumstances such as minor aspects that you might not like or a disability (don’t know about you but some guys get turned off a woman because of it). And in addition, at 26, perhaps the suitable women might already be in a relationship or married? Draining your chances even more.
So do a little thinking, the reality of the situation is, your chances of finding the right woman is quite small. But who knows? you might get lucky. VERY lucky (I’d use that luck to win in the lotto haha)
But to answer your question in the title. I can interpret the question in 2 ways:
1) Upholding your 7 conditions, it is not at all weird that at 26 you have not found the right woman.
2) According to general society norms, it is still not that weird that at 26 you have not found a woman for you. However, it is a lot more weirder than the ‘not weird’ as mentioned in 1) .
Hope I helped! Good luck! 🙂
7 conditions? Dude, are you living in Gone with the wind times? You reject un-lady like behavior? You don’t play games and you uphold ethics? Are you talking about having a relationship with a woman or are you a life guard at the local pool?
Listen, I respect that you seem to have an understanding of who you are and aren’t willing to compromise on what you want. But aspiring to perfection in the female form is almost as laughable as believing that you are the perfect guy. The only condition that makes any sense to realistically expect out of every relationship is the first one. Absolutely, you can’t control which type of physical appearance you are attracted to, I get that. But you need to lighten up on the other 6 conditions. You sound like the Trotsky of relationships.
Stop clinging to these conditions. Ask yourself if they are anything more then a mere crutch, a thinly veiled excuse, if you will, to mask failure. But if you take nothing away from my answer but one thing let it be this: give these women more time. That’s it. Give them just a smidgen more then a coffee date before you determine that you never want to see them again.