I’m a college student, and though I won’t graduate for another 3 semesters, the thought of life after college seems… lonely and unstructured. In some ways, it seems like life ends when you’re an adult–in the sense that, for the rest of your life, you’re going to work and not do much else. Of course, that’s not exactly true, but a LOT of working adults have this lifestyle. Their life centers around work, and that’s something you’re going to be doing for decades…so it seems like there’s no more “stages” of life to look forward too.
I kind of like the structured lifestyle that comes with being in education. I feel like I can’t handle all of the freedom that comes with adult/after college life. You’re truly on your own…. and even though I have friends, I feel like everyone just is doing their own thing, and has their own life so it’s difficult to form that stable support group. So many people who have graduated or who are graduating (either seemingly or actually) feel pretty confident with how there life is and the direction it’s going in. It’s like they’ve found their niche in life, have the support they need, and what not. But I feel lost and rather directionless…
For some reason, I feel like my life is going to feel pretty pathetic as an adul in the workforce. Following graduateion, I’ll hopefully soon attain a career in less than 6 months, but I don’t know what else I’m going to do with myself… I assume I will be single, or at least not being even close to getting married. This could definitely not be the case, don’t get me wrong, but I assume I’ll be single, getting settled in my career and living with god knows who..hopefully some friends? A serious relationship would provide that stability at least…so I kinda hope I’m not single by that point. It would be nice to have a stable unit (in this case, a husband) to come home to…I feel like I’m going to be lacking stable emotional/social support in adult/workforce life
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What Am I Supposed To Do With Myself And My Life After College? Adult Life Seems So Lonely…?
Posted on January 13, 2012.
Well, after your structured education expires, you need to do some things, like have a place to live, and have some food to eat, and probably have some clothing.
So, WHO is going to pay for that?
Maybe YOU are, so that means you need to get a job.
That is what the education is for.
Find a job, get some money, get your own place to live, and then live.
I have no clue as to your gender.
You seem pretty lost.
Haven’t your parents shown you what adult life is like?
They are your role models.
Have you been paying attention?
First of all, if you think about your post grad life as a period of doom, that’s what it will turn into.
Second of all, as a post grad myself, I can tell you that yes, it is a little frustrating having less structure. At times I miss having my day planned out, because it helped me know what I was doing when I woke up in the morning and get a ton of stuff done.
However, having a little less structure, has been great for me, and it will be great for you. The fact that you’re putting pressure on yourself is just a side effect of society’s “formula” – graduate, get a good job, get married, have kids. It doesn’t have to be like that. In fact, the economy is down right now, so you’ll probably have to work in whatever you can, find things to do, and let life take its course. Stop being so hard on yourself! Post-college is a beautiful time to discover who you want to be, pursue things that make up who you are, and generally indulge in ways that you can’t do once you have a family.
I don’t have a solid career at the moment (i majored in English)… but I’ve had the chance to travel, work with animals, take art classes, write poetry, go out all night, make new friends from work, make new friends from hobby groups like reading clubs and group outings… You make your own structure. Don’t rely on an outside source to do that for you. And don’t be scared.. the freedom to be who you are means that you can finally be your own person. I think you’ll do just fine.
what ” freedom that comes with adult/after college life ” are you talking about for gods sake? If you lucky you will become a corporation slave, so trust me you will be able to handle this “freedom” you will have with no doubts, and you will ask for more!
Become a teacher.Then you never have to leave the structured setting of education.