I am a twenty year old girl and truly understand now why people say “Enjoy being a kid.” The older you get you realize how truly selfish, envious, and cruel people can be. Dealing with an emotionally abusive ex showed me how people have absolutely no sympathy, find you annoying, and then ditch you to be friends with that guy.
Growing up truly sucks – and during the last two years I have been trying to find myself again. I thought I’d have a great support team of friends who’d distract me. People have this mentality “Sucks for you, Glad it’s not me.” If I didn’t see it, I don’t believe it, your overdramatic.” Over this time I’ve lost SO many friends. I am glad I got rid of the “fake” friends .. but its truly left me with noone. I used to be a very pretty popular girl – and after these experiences it’s made me insecure.
I’ve tried to stay a good person – I don’t just stay friends with someone after they hurt me because I am afraid of being alone. I don’t just drink or hook up with guys to feel “accepted” and not lonely. I thought the worst of this was high school – but even in early twenties people are just so cruel.
I feel somewhat trapped between my past, present, and future. I so desperately want to fix this – but you can’t force friendship nor relationship. I try to meet new people and stay away from people in my past – but everyone still knows everyone. I feel so lonely because I just don’t have my own niche. I don’t have people that I know are 100% there for me – and I look around and it seems everyone has their own security of good friends and relationships.
I know I am only twenty but I feel so bombarded and stressed. I don’t want to feel so sad all the time. I am so tired of people telling me to “get over it.” – when in reality I don’t see any helping hands of goodness. I never realized how early adulthood is truly so hard 🙁 I can’t help but feel I will always be sad and never return to that confident person I was.
Any advice?
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Growing Up : Losing Friends/heartbreak?
Posted on April 22, 2012.
Early 20’s is the hardest part of life, people just don’t know which way to go and people are in and out of your life like no ones business. It gets better around 24-25 years old when people’s brains fully develop, especially girls.
I’m sure you will find a great set of friends somewhere in this mid 20’s age range whether it be at a new job or a new apartment complex you move into or wherever.
I’m in my late 20’s and the only people that are in my life now are my immediate family, 2 friends I grew up with and knew my whole life, and 2 newer friends I met at work 2 years ago. When I was 18 I literally had 20 or so friends I’d randomly hang out with. By 20 that number dwindled in half. By 23 about 90% of us split. Haven’t talked to any of them in years, It’s weird because some of them I hung out with on a daily basis for years through my teen years.
Getting on Facebook is really weird because you meet back up with these people after all these years. This is why Facebook is most popular among older people.
Don;t feel bad, you will get over it and move on. Everyone goes through this.
You WILL return to that confident girl again. But that innocent time has past. We’ve all been there. It is sad, but there are greater joys ahead! Like the love you feel for your firstborn. Life is full of highs and lows. Remember…Life is not measured by the breaths we take, but rather by the moments that take our breath away.
Oh poor me poor ole me…damn girl your ranting….we get 1 or maybe 2 true friends in this world…your confusing acquantance for friend.. im
41 and would never want to be 20 again…get outside of the poor me bs and actually help someone….forget your needs and help the elderly, the sick the real mentaly ill….than you have made a difference and you will feel great…