I’ve sort of come to the idea that I just can’t find my own little niche yet. I’m an Korean adoptee, and I struggle between fitting in with my family, and fitting in with my ethnicity, if you know what I mean. Please don’t give me any “adoptee” facts or things like that, because I don’t really want to know about it. I just need some words of advice please.
My high school has its cliques, and the “asians” are probably one of the most cliquey. I hung out with them last year, but because I didn’t grow up the same way, I felt out of place even though they were all really nice. This year I hang out with my friends that I have all my life, and I made a new best friend (I have two now), but I still feel like I’m missing out on things. I have friends, not as many as I’d like though. It seems like all the people I’m with this year are old news, and I’ve been good friends with them in the past, but now it’s just like.. I’m there, and they’re there, but we don’t connect anymore. I feel like I’m having a really difficult time figuring out who my friends are.
I’m not unpopular, I don’t have any enemies and I’m nice to people.. but some days I feel really lonely. I’d never do anything dangerous with those feelings, but somedays I just feel low and cry. Have you ever reached a point in your life where you have just a few really good friends/best friends, and the rest are acquaintances? Any words of advice?
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Sometimes I Feel Like I Don’t Fit In, Help Me?
Posted on April 1, 2013.
I’ve had many different kinds of friends over the years. I, until recently, had a best friend, but now she’s only a friend/good friend, and I’m pretty upset about that even though it’s my fault- she’s pretty immature and annoying, so i get annoyed at her, but i love her deep down.
I have a close group of about 3 good friends, then i have a larger group of about 10 friends, then the rest i’m friendly with but not exactly completely FRIENDS, you know? But if you asked me, im friends with most people i know.
But i’ve had lots of situations with friends in my life, but i’ve always had about 1 or 2 that are always there for me. I guess what i’m trying to say is everyone gets lonely sometimes, and not all friendships are the same. If you like being with someone, be with them!
Friendship is about quality not quantity. As you grow older you will realize that it’s not the amount of friends that matter but it is the qaulity of friends that matter Two great friends are better than a bunch of fake or for the time being friends. Having a bunch of friends won’t make your loneliness go away and the reason for that is because lonliness is not just being alone but true lonliness is being surrounded by the wrong people who you don’t fit in with.
Start hanging out with your true friends more often, your maybe not connecting because you guys don’t hang outside of school often, go shopping with them or something, the more you hang out with them, they more you can connect
Your feeling lonely because your trying to make as many friends as possible and like I said, when you sourround yourself with the wrong people, that’s what will make you feel really lonely. Stop thinking that you need a lot of friends, live your life, have a few real friends rather than a bunch of fake ones.
I have one best friend and she is enough for me, we connect because we make the effort to connect, having one best friend is enough, if you have one really good friend then it’s equivalent to 100.
Find your true best friends, the one that will stick by your side no matter what, discover your true friends and start being more positive.
It’s ok to cry, crying does not prove that you are weak but it proves that you are human, you have a heart and sometimes we have to cry to let things out but please don’t cry on being lonely. Only you can make your lonliness go away, you need to keep yourself happy. It’s ok to cry sometimes but crying is not the solution. Just go on and look for the true friends in your life and be happy.