From Elementary to my sophomore year of high school I wasn’t necessarily considered “ugly” but more plain to be exact. Almost no attractive girl acknowledged me as good looking. They thought I was goth just because my hair was naturally pitch black along with my fair skin. Then the summer before my junior year I started changing my look a bit and people looked at me like I was a different person. I started straightening my hair and wearing clothes from Abercrombie, Aeropostale, Banana Republic etc. Then in my senior year I competed in this fundraiser for my prom which involved a beauty pageant for guys. I became popular after that and got hit on by some of the girls that ignored me before. I am in college now and I am getting flirty remarks from many. I feel as if because of the mental and vain torture I experienced has given me the impression to be cynical about every girl that hits on me.
I’m sure you’re beautiful and unique. You just have to find the right kind of people! There’s nothing wrong with being goth, pale, having dark hair, etc. Besides, it’s the people who have had the most hardships(not being accepted/judged) that are the most accepting and interesting. Not to mention that some of us find those physical characteristics to be attractive(definitely).
I don’t think you should change your style or yourself to fit into a niche! If EVERYONE around you is really that closed minded, then they’re not really worth your time anyhow. I understand why you would be thinking negatively about the girls hitting on you. I’m sure when the right one comes along, you’ll just know. It’s pretty easy to see through fakeness and girls that have no substance. DO NOT CALL YOURSELF AN UGLY DUCKLING! 🙂