So im 14 and hes 15. Hes Affiliated with a local gang and hes very tough. Hes really comtrolling and two nights ago we were in his basement and he told me to do something and i said “no” so he hit me and he was like “never say no to me again” This morning he texted me saying he gets mad easily and that he will never do it again but i have to listen. Do you think it was really a one time thing or will he do it again?
lol, trends persist.
Yes.
honestly i think everyone deserves a second chance, but be careful if he’s dangerous. and you don’t have to listen to him, you can do what you want. but please please please be careful!
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My mum suferd years of violence from my dad but every time he said he would stop ….. He didn’t ! Thankfully me and my mum have cut contact with him x
Someone who cheat will always cheat, someone who hits people will always do.
Plus, he’s involved in gangs and stuff.
Even if he does not hurt people, he might be hurt one day.
What if you give your entire life to him, and one day something just happens to him?
You would be alone for the rest of your life!
Plus, if he hits you simply because you said no to him, he WILL do it for bigger issues!
He won’t hit you if he really loves you.
You’re his girlfriend, not something he can control.
Best Advice: Get out now. He may say he won’t hit you again , but there is no till. My mother was killed because of domestic violence. It is not something you joke about. Get out of the relationship. If it happened once there is a chance that it will happen again. It is more likely he will do it again because he has a temper. Your to young to be going to something like this. Be with someone who will treat you right. If your afraid to break it off , have some(Father, brother, sister, whatever) go along with you. I wish you all the best. If you need more reassurance , feel free to email me. (Email on Yahoo answer page)
you dont have to listen he should respect your decision and sit down with him and tell him how you feel and if that doesnt work keep your distance slighty and i would watch as soon as he gets control over you he will end up breaking you down and coming up with more excuses for his anger. please just keep an eye open for any signs that hes getting angry. hope it turns out ok.
As every abuse victim knows, if they do it once, they’ll do it again. Only it may get worse each time. He may use weapons eventually. Get away from that controlling jerk NOW and find a better guy. You deserve kindness and understanding, not violence.
If he messages you again, just hit ‘spam’ and his msgs will no longer get thru. My daughter had an abusive husband. Not while dating, of course; but afterward. Wanted to know where she was every minute and why, would not let her finish her education or get a job. He may stalk you or get others to do it. If he does that, you can get a restraining order so he can’t come near you.
God is the ONLY one who knows what you’re thinking, how you’ve struggled and what you’re going thru. He loves you passionately and wants to be your BFF. He has a super-deluxe custom-made plan for your life that’s beyond anything you ever dreamed of and it does not include violent, controlling jerks.. BUT He waits for us to ask. Invite Him into your heart; ask Him to take over your life and your problems.
Find a big, happy church, attend some groups and have fun. You’ll find much better guys there. Talk with the pastor or youth pastor; he probably deals with this a lot and will have some good ideas. God loves you more than you can possibly imagine!! 🙂
If he hit you once for refusing to do something you didn’t want to do, then YES he will do it again! The reason he apologized is most likely because hes afraid of being single.
Why would you want to be with a 15 year old who thinks its cool to be in a gang?
@Me: Have you never heard of the word “Change” before? “Once a cheater, always a cheater” is complete bull crap. You cant possibly believe that someone will never learn from their mistakes. I did. I used to cheat back in grade 9. Haven’t cheated in around 6 years.
I have a feeling he’ll hit you again..