Affiliate Marketing Secrets

Yet another question about blog traffic.. I know I know, I’ve only just begun with about 11 posts over the course of the past week, I am blogging on www.adviceforateen.com obviously (hopefully) I am an advice blogs based on people 13-20.
I have a million ideas and I am good at coming up with ideas as well as being efficient in posting, I’m not worried about that, here are my questions;
1) about how many posts should I have (I average about 1,000 words some as low as 450 some as high as 1,300) before I start seeing some progress beyond 3-4 views a day?
2) where are some blogs I can post comments on even?! I can’t find any blogs in my niche allowing comments?
3) how long should I wait to put ads up, and affiliate marketing? I don’t want to drive away my viewers!
4) Any other ways of getting my blog out there?
A real downer today when I realized 26 of my 40 views were from me…
Any information on back links and SEO would be sweet, but I’ll probably look more into that myself as well.
Thanks!