Affiliate Marketing Secrets

I’ve tried everything and I just want to know if there’s some big secret weapon. How can I get my man to step up and take on responsibility for himself? I need him to be willing to work as many hrs as me and make as much money as me. How can I encourage him to step up and go for it. I tell him you have to put yourself out there and really sell yourself in this job market to get anybodys attention. He’s shy and easily upset/confrontational /defensive and It’s endlessly frustrating for me to deal with this childish behavior when Ive been more than patient. How can i get through to him?