Posted on 20 May 2012. Tags: bachelors masters, Career, career field, close friends, college, comfort zone, idea, immediate family, living in the city, moment, profession, quarter life crisis, roadblock, significant others, step dad
I will admit that the problem I will list out here is a “first-world problem,” but hear me out please. Some advice would be really helpful.
I went to college, got my bachelors/masters (along with lots of loans that I’ve now started to pay off), and entered a good career field. I like my profession and the versatility and the fact that I can pick up and go almost anywhere with it. At the moment, I am living in the city where I went to college, but have no idea what I’m going to do for my future. I’m not sure if I want to stay here. I have zero family here, and many of the friends that I made in college moved away after graduation. I have a few friends left, or should I say, acquaintances that I sometimes hang out with. I will admit I keep an emotional distance from people and that that’s one of the reasons why I haven’t formed close friendships in this city. Basically, I have nothing really holding me here except my job and my comfort zone. After all, I’ve been here six years in total, and have a good network. But where do I go from here? As it stands, all I have going in my life is my career. My immediate family lives about 4 hours away and I visit sometimes but my step-dad and I do not get along, so I don’t visit as often as I would like. Sometiems, I just feel really alone. All my co-workers have some kind of “base” here – family, significant others, etc. If I had that, I would be more at peace and more stable. I’m at an age where I should be thinking about settling down (I’m 23), but how can I do that if I haven’t found my niche? I feel so alone sometimes. I’m not sure what to do.
Any thoughts on someone going through a “quarter-life crisis”? Not sure if that’s what I’m experiencing but I’m sure as hell at a roadblock right now with regard to where I want my life to go. Lack of family/boyfriend/close friends in my area also makes me more restless.
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Posted on 20 May 2012. Tags: bachelors masters, Career, career field, close friends, college, comfort zone, idea, immediate family, living in the city, moment, profession, quarter life crisis, roadblock, significant others, step dad
I will admit that the problem I will list out here is a “first-world problem,” but hear me out please. Some advice would be really helpful.
I went to college, got my bachelors/masters (along with lots of loans that I’ve now started to pay off), and entered a good career field. I like my profession and the versatility and the fact that I can pick up and go almost anywhere with it. At the moment, I am living in the city where I went to college, but have no idea what I’m going to do for my future. I’m not sure if I want to stay here. I have zero family here, and many of the friends that I made in college moved away after graduation. I have a few friends left, or should I say, acquaintances that I sometimes hang out with. I will admit I keep an emotional distance from people and that that’s one of the reasons why I haven’t formed close friendships in this city. Basically, I have nothing really holding me here except my job and my comfort zone. After all, I’ve been here six years in total, and have a good network. But where do I go from here? As it stands, all I have going in my life is my career. My immediate family lives about 4 hours away and I visit sometimes but my step-dad and I do not get along, so I don’t visit as often as I would like. Sometiems, I just feel really alone. All my co-workers have some kind of “base” here – family, significant others, etc. If I had that, I would be more at peace and more stable. I’m at an age where I should be thinking about settling down (I’m 23), but how can I do that if I haven’t found my niche? I feel so alone sometimes. I’m not sure what to do.
Any thoughts on someone going through a “quarter-life crisis”? Not sure if that’s what I’m experiencing but I’m sure as hell at a roadblock right now with regard to where I want my life to go. Lack of family/boyfriend/close friends in my area also makes me more restless.
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Posted on 12 May 2011. Tags: 22 years, attending college, christmas, college, comfort zone, girlfriend, great peace, Home, mom, peace and joy, Solidarity, spiritual man, spiritual woman, summer job, young lady
Here’s the situation. I am a 25 year old man, and I’m attending college at a university in Idaho. I have a summer job to help pay for college and housing and such, which causes me to come and live at home for a brief period. With all of this, I am wanting to get engaged to my girlfriend of 5 1/2 years, but mom does not like her family, she does not like her situation. See, my girlfriend is 22 years old, works two jobs, and attends community college here in my hometown. She also lives at home right now. (Basically every time I go up to school for 8 months at a time, she and I are separated.) We’ve been accustomed to the long-distance thing for a period of time, then we’re home seeing each other again in person. I must tell you all now that she is the first girl I have ever been with. I am the first guy she has ever been with. I dated a small amount (can count on one hand) before I met her, but once I met her, we fell in love, and it’s been steady and constant. For 5 1/2 years. Straight. Almost six!
Anyway, I am a deeply spiritual man, and my girlfriend is a deeply spiritual woman. Heck, she even joined the church with which I’m affiliated because she knew it would bring her great peace and joy, and as far as I can see, it has. I won’t get into details–for I am sharing something deeply personal–but basically, I had an experience where I was praying and received spiritual witness from God, like a confirmation of sorts that really boosted my already confident belief in mine and her solidarity as a couple is sure. This just solidified it. I mean, I know God is behind the two of us. My mom really tried to cheapen that when I told her about it by saying that I have been blinded by love, and had not explored my options much, and that I have been too comfortable with this young lady to not pull out of my comfort zone. I argued that I had explored enough, and had been with my gf long enough to really get to know her, as well as saying that I was only comfortable with that comfort that two in love ought to be comfortable with. She didn’t buy it–none of it–and has, from that day forward, sought to control and seek to put forbearance upon my relationship; striving to control how, when, and how long I am in contact with this girl. She’s even put a limit on how many dates I go on with her! Mom’s reasoning? Since I have been emotionally connected, the physical connection will begin. And it could get a little too physical, was the bulk of her wording. Of course, my gf and I are chaste, and we’re Christian, so we don’t do anything sexual between us. We’re gonna wait til marriage. (Besides, why open the Christmas present before Christmas? :D) Anyway, we’re clean, and we have bounds around each other, and we stay lovingly inside of them! I love this young woman with all of my heart and soul, and she certainly loves me just the same, if not more! She amazes me, she dazzles me, and she fills me with great gratitude to God for blessing me with such an angel! But anyway, you all aren’t here to hear that, you’re hear to help me, give me advice, or just reassure me to go forward! Whatever you will say, say it. Thank you all!
God bless!
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Posted on 27 February 2011. Tags: christians, comfort zone, god, half, hardcore metal, jesus lover, kid, Leading, love, niche, Path, skateboarding, upbeat personality, whole life
Christians only 😀 So i’m 20, i love nature, skateboarding, and hardcore metal! im a regular kid, i found jesus a year and a half ago, and my life has truly changed! im growing each day. however, my whole life i have never found my niche, or comfort zone, in life. i have never find my “this is where i belong” moment in life. i have never found friends who are ones like me who love nature, traveling, christian metal, etc.
i’ve known people like that, but was too shy in high school to meet such people. now that im two years out of high school, im much more confident and secure through Jesus. however, everywhere i go, even now after jesus, i still dont find people who want to live to travel and spread Jesus’ love, or have the upbeat personality of a Jesus lover like i do… do you believe God is leading me away from people like me to lead me to something greater later on ( hopefully soon, Lord willing)???
im trying to stay faithful, what do you think??
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Posted on 09 January 2011. Tags: comfort zone, confidence, gorgeous mare, hill, Home, horses, muscles, open to suggestions, Ride, surroundings, welsh, Work
Hey I am a pretty advanced ride but I am always open to suggestions on how to improve my schooling.
I’m currently riding 8 horses, all ranging in experience. But at the moment, I’m mostly riding my own -14.3hh welsh, only just got him, used to jump affiliated but then was left in a field wasted. He also used to event, so did have an outline, but his muscle is poor and he’s lost his outline. Any tips on how to strengthen muscles, I know down hill work is good, which I do 3 times a week but any more tips. I have jumps and poles so can to gridwork and jumping.
I also have my gorgeous mare, who came to me and she was a horse that was very nervous as she had been in her old home all her life, so she was completely out of her comfort zone and was cantering on the spot, jumping around, just so scared. (Bless her) So I’m currently riding another horse to give her confidence and leading her in hand, which she seems to like a lot because she gets to know her surroundings. Her previous home used to go to shows which was local as they could hack there, but I can see soooo much potential in her I want to do shows all over the country, which I think she was more than able. But I need some tips on how to make her more confident and comfortable out of her surroundings. Any ideas?
Thanks for the help!
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