Affiliate Marketing Secrets

Hello I own an Online dating site but want to find Affiliates that would like to join my program. Can Anyone please give me some Great advice on where to go or what to do. My website is Emeraldmatch.com this is my link http://www.emeraldmatch.com

For the past 6 months I have been receiving spam email. It is always a slutty sounding name and the emails are always from an account that has the person’s first and last name and the domain is the same first and last name @ net or info or something. And they always seem to be affiliated with an un-named dating site. I frequently check my spam folder since it sometimes intercepts messages that I need. Anyways I clicked on of those aforementioned emails in my spam folder and to my dismay the email had two attached photos. One of which featured a naked post-pubescent yet still young looking lady and I am not sure what to do. Am I in trouble? The only new thing I have given my email out to is eharmony (6 months ago). How do I report it? Do I need to report it? The only reason I am worried is because the lady looks to be right at the age of majority but its not like the source is something I consider to be reputable.

I already know this is not an easy task and I would drop the idea altogether, but I really love my dating site niche idea. The reason I want to start it is because I myself went looking for this particular niche and could not find anything out there. Even the few sites I found that somewhat serviced my niche were poorly made and had bad layouts; however, even they got members because there is nothing out there.
As for dating software, the prices are ridiculous! How is someone supposed to make any money at all without going broke first with these programs? I’m not saying I wouldn’t pay a one time, couple hundred dollar fee, but close to a thousand plus monthly payments over 40-50 dollars is crazy.
Despite knowing my way around creating websites, I have no programming experience to create something like this. I have looked at osDate but it seems most of the sites that use this script fall out. If someone can point me in a direction or at least give me options, I would be very grateful.