Posted on 28 January 2011. Tags: asian guy, asian guys, asians, boyfriend, City, girlfriend, guy, laugh, niche, noooooooooo, preference, tuff, watching tv, way
I live in another city than my boyfriend because I moved away from my home to attend university. I moved before I started dating him, and before we really even knew each other well for that matter. I go back almost every weekend and stay with him, and he comes in to see me once during the week. We only live an hour a way so it’s not that far away, and seeing one another three days a week is pretty good. But the thing is before we were dating I turned him down for a long while because I have a preference for Asian guys, and I was honest with him about this when I turned him down. I don’t know it seemed like a better way of doing things. ” It’s not that you’re not a good guy, or that you’re not attractive, it’s just that you don’t really fit into my niche or so to speak”. But he was nice enough to me, and persistent enough to win me over in the end, what can I say.
But the thing is, I think it still stuck with him and well…. now he’s a bit paranoid. It started jokingly with us watching TV, and whenever an Asian guy would pop up he’d be like. “Oh no! You can’t watch this! You’ll realize you like Asians better and run off on me lol” and we’d laugh, and I’d be like “oh yeah, just look at him (like an 80 year old guy), solely based on the fact that he’s Asian I find him attractive!” he’d be like “NOOOOOOOOOO!” and we laughed and it was over. And paired with that he found out….how do I say this, my drive is quite high, and I enjoy what we do together, and I like to enjoy it a lot. So for whatever reason that got him thinking that I have had lots of partners before….which is a little insulting considering I had told him that I had only ever had one boyfriend before, and it was for like 1 year, which is true.
So with that, and a little tuff we got into after he kinda implied I was heavy jokingly (which I’m not -.-), I said that his tackle was small to make a point. (A boyfriend telling his girlfriend she’s fat is like a girlfriend telling her boyfriend his junk is small). I clearly said that that was the point and that’s not what I actually think, we apologized to one another and I thought it was over. But now he’s got it in his head that.
A: I don’t find him attractive
B: I’m crazy horny all the time
C: I think his junk is too small
To finally, he has it in his head that I have an F buddy in the city to keep me while he’s away….honestly. Facepalm worthy? Yes, yes I think so.
I never thought that he was so self conscious, but I guess it makes sense. He is a slim guy who’s friend’s beat on him all the time cause he’s not as built, and make fun of him for it. And whenever he gets drunk he always talks about how happy he is that I gave him a chance, and how I’m too good for him, and how beautiful I am and all this junk. I don’t think that he 100% believes it, but it’s a “joke” that comes out a little too much.
I tried to shake it out of his head with sarcasm by saying DRENCHING WITH SARCASM “OH YEAH! Gonna go back to my apartment and play with the stash of random naked men I keep hidden around my house, that you’ve never noticed before. OH YEAH! BIG BLACK MEN! ASIAN MEN! You name it!” I couldn’t have been more sarcastic, but even though I don’t think he fully 100% thinks I’m cheating on him, It still hurts that’s it’s even in the back of his mind. And it’s all so stupid ’cause he’s the one that even started the replacement partner crap. He would tease me about me being his “weekend girlfriend” and how the “others” are going to be jealous. I don’t take it seriously, why does he?
What should I do? Just sitting down with him and straight up saying IM NOT CHEATING ON YOU, seems dumb over something that itself is so dumb.
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Posted on 25 November 2010. Tags: desire, girlfriend, next school, Really, relationship, school year, sex, skateboard, university, year olds
i turned 20 3 months ago and i’ve never really had a girlfriend before, i’ve kissed and had sex but never really a relationship.
I think that was mainly because when i was younger i didn’t have a desire to have one but now i really really REALLY want a girlfriend.
i moved to Maryland 3 months ago from New Jersey and i haven’t really met anybody here, i’m going to community college and really focusing on school and working cuz i’m trying to get into a good university by next school year. I don’t do anything on the weekends except study and skateboard.
But i’m SICK of that, i want to go out and party and have fun!
are most people my age single? and also what should i do to get affiliated with people who party?
any advice would greatly be appreciated
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Posted on 23 November 2010. Tags: antics, argument, college, college photos, Facebook, family reunions, football team, girlfriend, information, insanity, nieces and nephews, real friends, Thing?, Work, work colleagues
My girlfriend and I just had an argument because she learned that she was on my secondary/professional Facebook account and not the one with my real friends. Here’s the situation: I met my girlfriend at my work. So I gave her the FB information I give all my work colleagues as it is HR friendly. When she learned that my best friend, an ex, and all of my family were linked to another FB account, she sent a FB request which I denied because her account is infested with friends from work who I don’t want to see my college photos, my football team antics or costumed insanity with my nieces and nephews at family reunions and such.
I told her I would friend her on my real FB account if she unfriended everyone from all the companies with which our company is affiliated. This upset her.
What’s the right thing to do in this situation?
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Posted on 27 September 2010. Tags: girlfriend, hot girl, men and women, nothing but sex, role reversal, school stuff, shell, social group, weeding, workload
First of all I am 6’1″ I am very athletic 210lbs(muscular), and I’ve been told that I am attractive.
I thought it would get better as I got into college as I got out of my shell near the end of high school. The only thing that has happened is that I have gone on a couple of dates every year and nothing comes of it.
It seems so easy for some of my friends. Friends who don’t even try. I have one friend who is afraid to talk to girls, and this one really hot girl basically just picks him up and now they’re dating. I don’t get it.
Now I will say this and it’s going to sound like a role reversal between men and women. There have been a few times when girls have come after me for nothing but sex. Again sounds weird. I am not against that in a relationship, but it was a case of hit it and quit it. I know that coming from a guy that sounds weird, but that’s what was going on. That has happened to me 5 times. some of them have been reasonably attractive, but some weren’t.
I am an architecture major, and I was told that the workload would decrease in my later years as the weeding out process would stop. Unfortunately I got a really hard studio, and I have had to stop doing any of the social group or club stuff I was affiliated with. I can barely make it through my school stuff let alone worrying about any kid of social life. But it is really starting to get to me. I have talked about it with people, and they just keep telling me be yourself, and it’ll come when it’s time. I am not a passive person I don’t believe in getting results by sitting back. I don’t want to be uptight because I worry about it but I do. there may be some truth to what they’re saying, but it can only make me feel better after so many times saying it.
I try to smile and say hi or introduce myself(at appropriate times) to girls I pass by or meet. I am surprised though at how many people stare at the ground while walking around campus.
I am also afraid that I will get to a point where if a girl finds out how inexperienced I am, I will just look like a freak.
It also doesn’t help that I have had friends who ask for relationship advice and what I tell them works so therefore they keep coming back as it keeps working and it’s torture. It’s like some higher power is playing a sick joke on me.
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Posted on 22 September 2010. Tags: boyfriends, cali, fly, girlfriend, Home, hometown, matter, stay, surprise
Ok, well I came with my boyfriend to his hometown to supposedly take care of his brothers girlfriend who is pregnant. This was only suppose to be a 2 to 3 week stay but now, my boyfriends brothers is trying to get him to stay. Our plans have been to come back in the future and make a family here but this is way to soon to my surprise. I asked him while we were in Cali if he was planing on staying and if so to please tell me so that I could just stay over there. He promised it eas only for a few weeks but now he is saying that it’s for the best of both. This makes me extremely sad and betrayed because I have my family over there. So now I’m crushed because he said that he is staying no matter what I say. He said there is niching in California for him and I should stay and leave everything over in Cali for now. I’m so crushed because I love him but I love my family as well. I feel payed by him because now ihave to fly all by myself back home.What would u do? Please help.
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Posted on 22 September 2010. Tags: boyfriends, cali, fly, girlfriend, Home, hometown, matter, stay, surprise
Ok, well I came with my boyfriend to his hometown to supposedly take care of his brothers girlfriend who is pregnant. This was only suppose to be a 2 to 3 week stay but now, my boyfriends brothers is trying to get him to stay. Our plans have been to come back in the future and make a family here but this is way to soon to my surprise. I asked him while we were in Cali if he was planing on staying and if so to please tell me so that I could just stay over there. He promised it eas only for a few weeks but now he is saying that it’s for the best of both. This makes me extremely sad and betrayed because I have my family over there. So now I’m crushed because he said that he is staying no matter what I say. He said there is niching in California for him and I should stay and leave everything over in Cali for now. I’m so crushed because I love him but I love my family as well. I feel payed by him because now ihave to fly all by myself back home.What would u do? Please help.
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