Posted on 19 May 2012. Tags: age gap, Bad, bad decision, birthing plans, Career, Contemplating, full partners, husband, niche market, old dad, parenthood, parenting techniques, s books, younger man, youth advocate
My husband and I have been together (living together) for 5 years and have been married a bit under a year. We are full partners, love each other deeply, and couldn’t be more happy. Except for one thing. We both want a baby, super badly. But there are layers to this problem, this biggest being the age gap between my us. I am 23. My husband is 39. This does not and has not ever bothered us. We are great together. The thing is, that if I were married to a younger man, I think I would probably put off having a child for a bit longer. I will be graduating in the fall with a BFA in studio art. I wish very much to become an illustrator (children’s books). But my husband already knows that he will be an “old dad”, especially compared to me. To add another layer (!), he was previously married, and had a child…for a few hours. The baby died hours after being born, and if anything, this strengthened the intensity of his desire to be a father. He lost that little boy, and I would do anything to give him a child to love. But I’m afraid. I’ve heard everything from “there’s no right time to have a baby, you just do it” to “if you have a baby, kiss your dreams goodbye!”. Not to mention that I am a feminist, and I feel that I will be seen as stupid for choosing to have a child at a young age before establishing my career. We aren’t rich. He is currently building a small business that is gaining attention in a niche market as well as attempting to enter law school and become a child and youth advocate in the court systems. We both for minimum wage to put ourselves through school. But, again, I’ve heard that if you wait for the “right” time financially to have a child, you’ll never feel safe doing it. But, the pressure is on due to my husband’s age, and I want a family with him very badly. I’m a born researcher. I have looked into birthing plans, expenses, parenting techniques. I am not the sort to go into something wimbly-nimbly.
So I guess I just need opinions from experienced parents. Yes, I would like to have a perfect salary, home, career, etc… before having a child. But I also know that that might take a decade that frankly, my husband does not have to give, to achieve those goals. And we both come from poor family backgrounds, so at least we know it can be done. We will be the first college graduates from our families. We are striving for the lives our parents did not have. So yeah. Opinions?
Bonus: Any considerations of parenthood that you wished you’d known before becoming a parent?
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Posted on 28 January 2012. Tags: awsome, Clickbank, effort, entire web, extra money, how to make money, how to make money on the internet, husband, money, product, reputable company, web
Can anyone tell me how to make money on the Internet? I’ve tried being an affiliate for large companies like Clickbank but nothing I ever did actually worked. I’ve built entire web sites around a product and still nothing ever came out of it. I’ve been trying for years, and I’ve put all my time and effort into trying to bring in extra money to help my hard working husband, but he still brings in the dough. I am looking for a reputable company that has awsome products… not some company that has millions of products to choose from. I’m tired of all that. I want to work for someone who doesn’t have millions of other people trying to make money by selling their products. Does anyone know of such a company that is legitimate that can show me a real way how to make money on the Internet?
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Posted on 04 October 2011. Tags: car, car keys, d4, damage, ebay, ebay services, Fortuner, husband, legal attorney, payment, scratches, secure pay, toyota fortuner, transferable warranty, working conditions
Hello Harry ,
My name is Pamela, I am emailing you regarding the 2009 Toyota Fortuner 3.0 D4-D that I have for sale. I sell at this price( R 90,000.00 )because i just finished the divorce with my husband. When the divorce has finished i received this car.Now as a women i don’t need. This car is in excellent working conditions, no scratches, flaws or any kind of damage, slightly used in 100% working and looking conditions and comes with a clear title, 3 months transferable warranty. From the beginning you have to know that for the payment I request ONLY secure pay, I prefer the payment to be done using eBay services. We will use a safe payment method because I am affiliated at eBay and I have a purchase protection account.The final price that I want for this car is R 90,000.00 including shipping and handling.You will receive with the car : keys,title, all the receipts that I have from it, owner’s manual, service manual, and also a sale receipt signed at a legal attorney stating that I’m selling you this car. When it arrives, you must have your ID ( preferably 2 forms of identification ) and sign for receiving.
If you are interested in buying it please provide me your full name and address so I can initiate the deal through eBay
I will wait your answer(if you are interested to buy) very soon!!
Thank you and have a nice day
Pamela Whitson .
1st email
Hello Harry ,
My name is Pamela, I am emailing you regarding the 2009 Toyota Fortuner 3.0 D4-D that I have for sale. I sell at this price( R 90,000.00 )because i just finished the divorce with my husband. When the divorce has finished i received this car.Now as a women i don’t need. This car is in excellent working conditions, no scratches, flaws or any kind of damage, slightly used in 100% working and looking conditions and comes with a clear title, 3 months transferable warranty. From the beginning you have to know that for the payment I request ONLY secure pay, I prefer the payment to be done using eBay services. We will use a safe payment method because I am affiliated at eBay and I have a purchase protection account.The final price that I want for this car is R 90,000.00 including shipping and handling.You will receive with the car : keys,title, all the receipts that I have from it, owner’s manual, service manual, and also a sale receipt signed at a legal attorney stating that I’m selling you this car. When it arrives, you must have your ID ( preferably 2 forms of identification ) and sign for receiving.
If you are interested in buying it please provide me your full name and address so I can initiate the deal through eBay
I will wait your answer(if you are interested to buy) very soon!!
Thank you and have a nice day
Pamela Whitson .
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Posted on 10 March 2011. Tags: Atheists, Belief, belief in god, Education, husband, instrument, latin, nieces and nephews, Parents, private school, private schools, problem, state, three sisters, two brothers
So, I have a 5 year old, so have been thinking about his education. My husband and I are trying to decide between private school or state (public) school.
I have two brothers ,and my husband has three sisters, and all of our nieces and nephews are school-age. While we love them all the same and think they are all great kids, there is no question that the ones that attend private school are more well-rounded ( proficient in French, Latin, an instrument, and several sports) and seem more mature. I don’t think that they are any smarter or have better parents than the other kids, so the schooling must be what sets them apart. The only thing stopping us is the cost (astronomical!). Another problem is that ALL the good private schools we have found are religiously affiliated, and as my husband and I are atheists and do not promote belief in god, I don’t know if this would be confusing for him. If it is hardly mentioned, that’s fine, I just do not know how heavy-handed they are at those places. Opinions?
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Posted on 10 January 2011. Tags: civil case, decisions, Gangs, husband, information, investigators, jane doe, job, john doe, press, Victim, victim advocate, violent crime
Hi, everyone. My husband and I have been the victims of a violent crime. The investigators are doing an okay job, but the police were less than helpful in advising us. We are looking for a victim advocate or someone to help us make decisions, but until we find one, we feel pretty lost.
Since we weren’t given much information about the process, and we had to make a split-second decision, we initially said we would like to press charges. Things are going kind of haywire with the investigation, and we are pretty scared for our safety. If this ever goes to trial or if these people are ever brought to justice in any capacity, will they find out our names?
I know it’s not like a civil case when it’s Jane Doe vs. John Doe, instead it would be the DA filing the charges, so the state, but I still wonder if the victims are ever named. We have a few reasons for wondering. Obviously, they would find out what we look like if we showed up, but they already know that. We just don’t want them to have our names to look up anything about where we live, work, etc. They are affiliated with gangs, and there are several of them out there.
Thank you for any help.
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