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I’m Having A Social Life Crisis In College…how Do I Find My Place In This City?


I’m a sophomore in college (and female) and I’m going through what I suppose a lot of college students are (even though it doesn’t seem like it) where I’m trying to figure out where I belong in life. It’s sort of a confusion phase of figuring out your future, who you are, and what you want from life. I think last year as a freshman I was more lost than ever, but now I feel relatively more comfortable in my new home. I moved from a rural area to a (smaller/medium-sized) city, so it took some getting used to, and I still am getting used to it in some regards.
Despite this, I’m still not “settled” or exactly comfortable in my own shoes. I’m trying to figure out where I fit in (with respect to social groups in college); there’s obviously a life after college, too, so I would like to have some sense of security in terms of social friendships/relationships, because (correct me if I’m wrong) developing those connections is very difficult after college.
I feel intimidated because it seems like so many students have found their niche in life by the time they are my age (ie: a sophomore, approaching junior year) and are not looking for a group of friends. How can I ensure that I find my place in this city? I’m quite school/career focused and individualistic and so is everyone else…so sometimes I find it difficult to make those personal connections. Most people I know seem to be confident about their life and have a lot going for them. Whereas I just feel confused and hopeful for a good future. I guess it’s not that I’m not doing anything… I get mostly A’s, have a part time job, and a few good friends (2 or 3 close friends) but for some reason I still can’t find my niche where I feel comfortable with myself. Two of those three close friends also have a lot of friends, so I’m more of an “option”. I’m also single (and have been since I was 16) so having a relationship is something I’d like to happen in the next couple of years
Any general life advice? I just really don’t feel like I’ve found my niche or a close GROUP of friends that give me a sense of closeness, stability and support. I really don’t think I’m one of those weird people who can’t make friends–I’m totally like-able, but I feel unsettled like I’m lacking something in the social department

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I’m Having A Social Life Crisis In College…how Do I Find My Place In This City?


I’m a sophomore in college (and female) and I’m going through what I suppose a lot of college students are (even though it doesn’t seem like it) where I’m trying to figure out where I belong in life. It’s sort of a confusion phase of figuring out your future, who you are, and what you want from life. I think last year as a freshman I was more lost than ever, but now I feel relatively more comfortable in my new home. I moved from a rural area to a (smaller/medium-sized) city, so it took some getting used to, and I still am getting used to it in some regards.
Despite this, I’m still not “settled” or exactly comfortable in my own shoes. I’m trying to figure out where I fit in (with respect to social groups in college); there’s obviously a life after college, too, so I would like to have some sense of security in terms of social friendships/relationships, because (correct me if I’m wrong) developing those connections is very difficult after college.
I feel intimidated because it seems like so many students have found their niche in life by the time they are my age (ie: a sophomore, approaching junior year) and are not looking for a group of friends. How can I ensure that I find my place in this city? I’m quite school/career focused and individualistic and so is everyone else…so sometimes I find it difficult to make those personal connections. Most people I know seem to be confident about their life and have a lot going for them. Whereas I just feel confused and hopeful for a good future. I guess it’s not that I’m not doing anything… I get mostly A’s, have a part time job, and a few good friends (2 or 3 close friends) but for some reason I still can’t find my niche where I feel comfortable with myself. Two of those three close friends also have a lot of friends, so I’m more of an “option”. I’m also single (and have been since I was 16) so having a relationship is something I’d like to happen in the next couple of years
Any general life advice? I just really don’t feel like I’ve found my niche or a close GROUP of friends that give me a sense of closeness, stability and support. I really don’t think I’m one of those weird people who can’t make friends–I’m totally like-able, but I feel unsettled like I’m lacking something in the social department

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I’m Having A Social Life Crisis In College…how Do I Find My Place In This City?


I’m a sophomore in college (and female) and I’m going through what I suppose a lot of college students are (even though it doesn’t seem like it) where I’m trying to figure out where I belong in life. It’s sort of a confusion phase of figuring out your future, who you are, and what you want from life. I think last year as a freshman I was more lost than ever but now I feel relatively more comfortable in my new home. I moved from a rural area to a (smaller/medium-sized) city, so it took some getting used to, and I still am getting used to it in some regards. Either way, I’m trying to figure out where I fit in (with respect to social groups in college); there’s obviously a life after college, too, so I would like to have some sense of security in terms of social friendships/relationships. I feel intimidated because it seems like so many students have found their niche in life by the time they are my age (ie: a sophomore, approaching junior year) and are not looking for a group of friends.
How can I ensure that I find my place in this city? I’m quite school/career focused and individualistic and so is everyone else…so sometimes I find it difficult to make those personal connections. Most people I know seem to be confident about their life and have a lot going for them. Whereas I just feel confused and hopeful for a good future. I guess it’s not that I’m not doing anything… I get mostly A’s, have a part time job, and a few good friends (2 or 3 close friends) but for some reason I still can’t find my niche where I feel comfortable with myself. Two of those three close friends also have a lot of friends, so I’m more of an “option”. I’m also single (and have been since I was 16) so having a relationship is something I’d like to happen in the next couple of years
Any general life advice? I just really don’t feel like I’ve found my niche or a close GROUP of friends that give me a sense of closeness, stability and support. I really don’t think I’m one of those weird people who can’t make friends–I’m totally like-able, but I feel unsettled like I’m lacking something in the social department

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What Am I Supposed To Do With Myself And My Life After College? Real Adult Life Seems So Lonely…?


I’m a college student, and though I won’t graduate for another 3 semesters, the thought of life after college seems… lonely and unstructured. In some ways, it seems like life ends when you’re an adult–in the sense that, for the rest of your life, you’re going to work and not do much else. Of course, that’s not exactly true, but a LOT of working adults have this lifestyle. Their life centers around work, and that’s something you’re going to be doing for decades…so it seems like there’s no more “stages” of life to look forward too.
I kind of like the structured lifestyle that comes with being in education. I feel like I can’t handle all of the freedom that comes with adult/after college life. You’re truly on your own…. and even though I have friends, I feel like everyone just is doing their own thing, and has their own life so it’s difficult to form that stable support group. So many people who have graduated or who are graduating (either seemingly or actually) feel pretty confident with how there life is and the direction it’s going in. It’s like they’ve found their niche in life, have the support they need, and what not. But I feel lost and rather directionless…
For some reason, I feel like my life is going to feel pretty pathetic as an adult in the workforce. Following graduation, I’ll hopefully soon attain a career in less than 6 months, but I don’t know what else I’m going to do with myself… I assume I will be single, or at least not being even close to getting married. This could definitely not be the case, don’t get me wrong, but I assume I’ll be single, getting settled in my career and living with god knows who..hopefully some friends? A serious relationship would provide that stability at least…so I kinda hope I’m not single by that point. It would be nice to have a stable unit (in this case, a husband) to come home to…I feel like I’m going to be lacking stable emotional/social support in adult/workforce life

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How Can I Deal With The Life Here? I Literally Have Like No Friends At This College In The City?


Im a freshman in college in a big city. But its not a college friendly city. I feel like I literally have no friends. Im not a complete anti social person, its just that many friendships have drifted away. Especially since I dont live on campus (i live 25 min away by subway downtown in a university affiliated housing. It has like 1% of all the students at my college)
There was a group on facebook for my class. Literally all my close friends in the beginning of the year were from that facebook group (we chatted over the summer and stuff). Without that group, I would have had literally 0 friends the entire year.
My closest friend ever at this school was a guy named Steven. We got along so well and we were such great friends. So close to the point where we actually dated. Long story short it ended badly because he was horrible at communication. He was too immature to discuss a relationship, even though we literally in one. Just not officially. He never spoke to me again after i told him we were a mistake. (i said that because he was being a complete dick head to me and very rude) That was a little past the middle of september when we broke up
When I compare my life back in September, to now, its completely different. Back then I had such a busy social schedule. I was never ever alone. If I was alone, it was like for an hour or two max per day. Literally. I had people constantly texting me to hang out. I just had a solid group
No one really contacts me to see how im doing. I mean, I have one friend that contacts me a few times a week to eat meals with her and chat. Then I have another that contacts me like every other week or so to see how im doing, but other than that no. One girl who I thought i was close with, is now mainly a professional relationship. I am president of a club, and I am essentially her boss. So when we talk, its just about the organization and responsibilites.
My roommate is not mean, its just that we never talk.
Its just so lonely and isolating here. No one on my floor talks to me because of the breakup with Steven. Steven is the most popular guy on my floor, and they all side with him. This is such a terrible thing to say, but I feel like I could drop dead in my room, and no one would notice. I mean, literally no one on my floor has talked to me since last semester except for two people saying hello.
Its not like i have a huge problem with this lifestyle. I mean, its pretty productive because I have more time to devote to my extracurriculars and my non-profit job. But still, when I see like on facebook and stuff how social everyone is compared to me, its kinda depressing. Even just hearing Steven outside my door in the hall with his friends, and all the parties they have in his room make me feel a bit excluded.
I tried making plans with a “friend” (though clearly she aint my friend) for last thursday. At that point we had seen eachother ONCE since November. And that one time was just dinner for a half hour. So I texted her about plans. She said “sure thing. dinner thursday. text me thursday girl!” then i texted her on thursday at noon about dinner. She never responded. Ive given up. I just cant extend myself to these people anymore. (its not just that. she is friendly with Steven now, and ever since that she hasnt talked to me)
I feel like Steven is the queen bee, and im the complete opposite. He is so popular and everyone adores him. Boys and girls. Yet I definitely dont get that attention…

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Why Are Republicans More Prone To Do Have Been In Prison?


After a survey of middle aged white American was conducted, it was found out that on average 53% of the men who affiliated themselves with the right wing(including right leaning independents) have been jail at least one time in their life as compared to the 24% of men who affiliated themselves with the left.

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