Posted on 19 March 2012. Tags: apparent reason, being friends, college, female sophomore, freshman year, friendLESS, Group, odd reason, party animals, Reason, social stability, solid group, sophomore, stable group, upperclassmen
First of all, I’m not friendLESS, which is a good sign. However, I do not feel like I have a solid group of friends that provides that social stability/support. I am currently a (female) sophomore in college and I am having a hard time finding my niche or close group of friends in college. I feel like most people make their friends from their hallway freshmen year. Last year I got unlucky and lived in a dorm that attracted the types of people I specifically could never find myself being friends with–the superficial party animals. I also roomed with a girl who seemed to be on the same page as me (ie: neither of us fit in with the types of people who chose to live in this dorm) but she wasn’t interested in being friends with me for some odd reason, and grew to dislike me for almost no apparent reason.
I remember within the first week we both felt like everyone in my hall clicked off very quickly and before I knew it, both of us were alone, and she ended up transferring out after the first semester. Looking back, I kind of wish I had too because I didn’t fit in at all. But for some reason I thought if I stuck it out maybe it would get better.
So that explains largely why I didn’t make that many friends my freshman year when I “should have”. The school I’m attending also has about 50,000 undergrads, so it can be difficult to make the connections.
This year, I’m living in an apartment with random roommates (and will probably find myself, embarassingly, doing the same thing my junior year :/). While I have some friends, I want a stable group of friends, but I feel like all the upperclassmen already have a group of friends and aren’t looking for any more. Plus, it is difficult to break into an already formed social circle. My problem is, I have a lot of trouble following through with relationships and turning acquaintances into friends. I have people who I sit with in class, see at work, etc. but I have an extremely difficult time taking relationships to the next level. Its not that I’m that fearful of rejection, I feel like the whole process of asking to get food or hang out will be awkward. I’m also afraid that it isn’t appropriate to take things to the next level.
At this point, I feel like it is most critical to make friends because in the working world it’s even more difficult. I would even like to find a mate in college if possible, but I don’t know if that will happen or not either.
It just seems like everyone else has found their niche here and is comfortable with their adult life whereas I feel like I am just floating around without any stable social relationships to keep me grounded. Again, I am not in a position where I have zero friends. I do have one really good friend who I’d consider reliable. I have two other friends (who are also mutual friends with each other), but both of them are social butterflies so I really only feel like an option to them. So they’re not very reliable because they both already have their own separate group of friends.
What can I do to improve my confidence in my social life?
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Posted on 29 February 2012. Tags: alpha kappa alpha, beatings, bglo, brother sister, deference, founders, greek, haze, person, prospective members, Reason, skaters, sororities and fraternities, wood
To start off I am not affiliated with any BGLO.
All of the divine 9 sororities and fraternities do not support hazing. I’ve been to all of their websites and it’s clearly written that it is illegal and if members or prospective members were caught doing so the chapter (in most cases) will be suspended.
With this being said, I would like to know why so many of them especially the fraternities still haze and “give wood”?
I know some greek people will say “we don’t haze, we teach deference”…. by paddling?
So why don’t they do what their organization wants them to do? How is beating someone for no reason going to make that person love and respect you as their brother/sister?
I’m all for legit lessons, actions that have meaning behind them, but not pointless beatings. Almost like getting initiated into a gang.
Also, I’ve noticed that Alpha Kappa Alpha seems to be really enforcing the non-hazing policy, however now other orgs call them “skaters, and paper” because of this. It’s almost appalling.
In my opinion, none of the founders would want that. They want dedicated people that are successful and give back to the community.
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Posted on 25 February 2012. Tags: Access, Blaze, Number, personal profile, phone, queries, Reason, sim card, tariff, Website
I bought a Huawei Blaze last week but I have been having a few issues that I cannot get answers for from the handbook, from the company I bought it from nor Huawei website as it won’t let me register for some reason!
So, my queries are, how do I access the internet when I am out and about? I am fine when in a Wifi zone but when travelling in the car for example I am unable to access the internet. I pay for 500mb of data per month so its not to do with my tariff, there must just be a simple setting that I’m missing?
Also, when I got the phone it came with a different number assigned to it but I got my current number to replace the one on the sim card, however, my proper number is showing when i call people etc but say i look at a text i sent and click on my picture then the number shows as the number that came with the phone so how can i change my personal profile on the phone?
Thanks
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Posted on 17 February 2012. Tags: call, Farther, freshmen, lunch time, management class, Niches, older sister, Peers., Reason, reason adults, smoke, smoke weed, task management, ungodly fear, weed
I’ve never met anyone that has interests that are similar to mine and it makes it extremely hard to get along with anyone. The only thing I can do with people anymore is smoke weed because everyone loves weed at my school. Most people at my school call me weird and things like that, but for some reason, adults (except teachers because I don’t talk to teachers) love my personality and tell my mom that she raised a wonderful son. Kids are so cruel to me and I don’t know why.
I had to be in a special task management class my freshmen year because I failed most of my classes in eighth grade due to not trying. All the kids and the teachers (there were two of them for some reason) would make fun of my behavior for some reason and some kids would even try to start fights with me even though most people know that I have an ungodly fear of any contact with people. My older sister wouldn’t even stand up for me.
I have friends, but I don’t have a group of friends because my small number of friends all come from different niches at my high school. I usually end up at home after school and on the weekends. During lunch time at my school, I just roam the halls till lunch is over because I have nobody to sit with. I feel very unattached from reality. I don’t think that I’m like most people. I’m at the point where I can’t comprehend how people can go on fine day to day while I’m left questioning my existence. Everyday, I feel like I’m getting worse and moving farther away from my friends. I feel very alone in the word. Could there be a reason why I am this way?
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Posted on 17 February 2012. Tags: call, Farther, freshmen, lunch time, management class, Niches, older sister, Peers., Reason, reason adults, smoke, smoke weed, task management, ungodly fear, weed
I’ve never met anyone that has interests that are similar to mine and it makes it extremely hard to get along with anyone. The only thing I can do with people anymore is smoke weed because everyone loves weed at my school. Most people at my school call me weird and things like that, but for some reason, adults (except teachers because I don’t talk to teachers) love my personality and tell my mom that she raised a wonderful son. Kids are so cruel to me and I don’t know why.
I had to be in a special task management class my freshmen year because I failed most of my classes in eighth grade due to not trying. All the kids and the teachers (there were two of them for some reason) would make fun of my behavior for some reason and some kids would even try to start fights with me even though most people know that I have an ungodly fear of any contact with people. My older sister wouldn’t even stand up for me.
I have friends, but I don’t have a group of friends because my small number of friends all come from different niches at my high school. I usually end up at home after school and on the weekends. During lunch time at my school, I just roam the halls till lunch is over because I have nobody to sit with. I feel very unattached from reality. I don’t think that I’m like most people. I’m at the point where I can’t comprehend how people can go on fine day to day while I’m left questioning my existence. Everyday, I feel like I’m getting worse and moving farther away from my friends. I feel very alone in the word. Could there be a reason why I am this way?
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Posted on 17 February 2012. Tags: call, Farther, freshmen, lunch time, management class, Niches, older sister, Peers., Reason, reason adults, smoke, smoke weed, task management, ungodly fear, weed
I’ve never met anyone that has interests that are similar to mine and it makes it extremely hard to get along with anyone. The only thing I can do with people anymore is smoke weed because everyone loves weed at my school. Most people at my school call me weird and things like that, but for some reason, adults (except teachers because I don’t talk to teachers) love my personality and tell my mom that she raised a wonderful son. Kids are so cruel to me and I don’t know why.
I had to be in a special task management class my freshmen year because I failed most of my classes in eighth grade due to not trying. All the kids and the teachers (there were two of them for some reason) would make fun of my behavior for some reason and some kids would even try to start fights with me even though most people know that I have an ungodly fear of any contact with people. My older sister wouldn’t even stand up for me.
I have friends, but I don’t have a group of friends because my small number of friends all come from different niches at my high school. I usually end up at home after school and on the weekends. During lunch time at my school, I just roam the halls till lunch is over because I have nobody to sit with. I feel very unattached from reality. I don’t think that I’m like most people. I’m at the point where I can’t comprehend how people can go on fine day to day while I’m left questioning my existence. Everyday, I feel like I’m getting worse and moving farther away from my friends. I feel very alone in the word. Could there be a reason why I am this way?
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