Posted on 30 January 2011. Tags: Australia., call, gay male, guy, hottest guy, intention, kicker, little bit, lol, person, relationship, relationships, text, these girls, two minutes
Gay male in my early 20’s here. A few weeks ago, I met this guy. At first I never would’ve considered getting involved with him cause he lives nearly 2 hours away but we have so much in common, more than probably with anyone I’ve ever known. We started talking all day every day, and he made no secret of the fact that he really likes me and was falling for me. He’d keep telling me I’m the hottest guy he’s ever seen, I’m amazing, he’s never felt like this before. I thought it was really sweet, but at times, veered off into feeling a little bit too much like idolization (For example, I’m an actor and he watched a movie I was in and told me “You first come on screen two minutes and 42 seconds in”). Anyway though, we began seeing each other. He came here, then I went there, and we both kept saying how much we like each other. But here’s the kicker…he’s leaving for Australia next week and doesn’t come back until June! However, he’s kept talking about our plans for when he gets back and the summer and stuff – even mentioned us living together (yet we’ve never really talked about what we are, if we’re officially in a relationship or what)
So last night, we’re texting and he tells me loves me (which he hadn’t directly said before) and then tells me to check Facebook. He sent me a message, which I found VERY strange. It was saying about how he’s happy that he’s leaving because he’s crazy about me and he knows that if he were staying, he’d push me away because that’s what he does with people. He said that because he’s “always gotten screwed over” in his previous relationships, that’s all he knows (He’s only been out of the closet recently and has never been with a guy before. He’s only dated girls – all of whom he deceived into believing he was straight. So I find it a bit hard to swallow that he supposedly got so screwed over by these girls). He then said that I shouldn’t wait for him (As if I had ANY intention of doing so) and said that while he’s away, he’s gonna be dating guys who he can make these mistakes with because they don’t mean as much to him as I do and said that when he gets back, he’s gonna call “the only person he’s ever loved” and that I should expect that call.
This message bothered me a little – I didn’t like how he was whining about getting “screwed over” and pushing people away, I also didn’t like having to hear about all the guys he’s gonna hook up with – but I thought maybe I was being irrational and I’d let it go. Then he keeps texting me and asking if I got it. I said “I did. So am I really the only person you’ve ever loved? hehe ;)” He writes back saying “Psh yeah! I mean well, I haven’t been on the market long but still” …Not so much the answer I wanted to hear. His whole demeanor felt different. So I “jokingly” wrote back saying “Oh you’d probably say that to any guy who was here lol” So he writes back saying “Well I love everything I know about you and being with you. It’s too soon for I love you’s though now that I think about it [Um who’s the one person who said that though?! Not me!!]. I could be hooking up with lots of guys that are closer!” That was it, I was really mad! I didn’t respond and then like an hour later, I get another text saying “Lol, that may have been me impulsively pushing away”.
I felt like I had had it, so after a lot of thought, I sent back a text saying “And Matt, this is me doing the same.” So he immediately responded “How so?” but I didn’t know what to say, and it was like 3am so I just went to sleep. It’s annoying because I can’t even say in words how he’s gone on and on and on about how nuts he is over me. He said one night he was paranoid and binge drinking and freaking out cause I hadn’t immediately responded to a text of his (I was at work, it took me a few hours!), he said how he talks about me to everyone, his entire Facebook statuses and everything are always about me, there are nearly 2000 texts between us in my phone, etc etc etc. I’m just not sure what to do
Another is… I do like him. On paper, we’re perfect for each other. That said, I don’t know, maybe I’m crazy, maybe it’s just that I’m not used to it being easy, but….something’s missing. With the few guys I’ve previously really liked, I was SO certain. When we kissed, it felt like fireworks going off, I wanted to know everything about them, and be around them every second of every day. I do really like him and think I’d miss him terribly if we were to just stop talking. But I don’t have that fireworks feeling, yknow? He’s attractive but he’s not a good kisser and he smells like an old lady’s attic. Now I don’t know
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Posted on 03 December 2010. Tags: erotic shop, family friend, Google, informative websites, mainstream, Niches, Other, pipeline, Profit, relationship, Shop, Website
i have just designed my first website for a family friend and intend on making more for my own enjoyment/profit. i have some in the pipeline which are simply informative websites for certain mainstream niches etc but also want to start an erotic shop. i am worried google wont let me use google ads on my ‘family friendly’ sites if i also run erotic sites.. is this true? i wouldnt want to ruin my relationship with google before its even started!
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Posted on 25 November 2010. Tags: desire, girlfriend, next school, Really, relationship, school year, sex, skateboard, university, year olds
i turned 20 3 months ago and i’ve never really had a girlfriend before, i’ve kissed and had sex but never really a relationship.
I think that was mainly because when i was younger i didn’t have a desire to have one but now i really really REALLY want a girlfriend.
i moved to Maryland 3 months ago from New Jersey and i haven’t really met anybody here, i’m going to community college and really focusing on school and working cuz i’m trying to get into a good university by next school year. I don’t do anything on the weekends except study and skateboard.
But i’m SICK of that, i want to go out and party and have fun!
are most people my age single? and also what should i do to get affiliated with people who party?
any advice would greatly be appreciated
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Posted on 19 September 2010. Tags: Affiliated, Dartmouth, dartmouth college, High, relationship, specail
or a high school has some specail relationship with Dartmouth College?
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Posted on 13 September 2010. Tags: boyfriend, everything, exodus international, extent, informative books, intensive therapy, Realize, relationship, Spiritual, spiritual illness, suicide, teenage son, tragic situation, trouble
Last week, our teenage son told us that he is gay, and that he has a boyfriend. Obviously, this is completely unacceptable, but we understand that our son has a serious mental and spiritual illness. However, we are having trouble getting him to acknowledge that he is not gay despite doing everything right as far as I can see, and wondered if anyone had ideas on how best to handle this tragic situation.
We’ve spoken to him at length, but instead of being agreeable, he bursts into tears and threatens suicide: the latter threat has strained our family to the extent that one of us needs to watch him at all times to make sure he doesn’t do anything silly before he can be cured. Our pastor has spoken to him without better results: he suggested we contact Exodus International, which we have. We have already arranged for my son to receive intensive therapy from a program affiliated with Exodus International. While awaiting the start date of the therapy, our son has access to several informative books such as “Coming out Straight,” which he has been refusing to read with any enthusiasm. Lastly, we’ve blocked all communication between this corrupting boyfriend and my son so the wrong relationship no longer exists.
Any ideas?
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Posted on 03 September 2010. Tags: attempts, friendship, good friends, morning, new friends, niche, person, relationship, Ridiculous, sophomore, sort, way
Not to seem full of myself, but I’m the kind of person who’s really kind and loyal and trustworthy to everyone. If a friend needed me to come pick them up somewhere at 3 in the morning, I’d more than likely be there for them.
To make a long story short, I have a group of friends who I’ve had sort of an on and off relationship since my junior year of high school. We’re sophomore in college now, but with time these issues (for me) have only gotten worse.
I stopped hanging out with them because I didn’t feel like I belonged in their “niche.” The things that made them laugh, barely made me giggle.
I guess because of this they’ve never bothered to invite me places outside of school, even up to now. Three of my good friends belong to this group, and even though I’m not close with the others, I still wanted to see them and hang out with them every once in a while.
I’d make attempts, asking what was going on and when, and they’d always say they didn’t know but that they’d let me know, come Monday to find that they’d been to the beach that weekend, or they’d been to so and so house and had a party.
When I told my friend how much it hurt that they never invited me places, she told me that it was a two way street if you want to hang out with people, and wondered why I waited for her to invite me…
…but I guess I was being silly by assuming that asking what the group is going to be doing was the reasonable thing to do if you want to hang out with someone.
She finally admitted that because we don’t hang out/talk as often, she never thinks to invite me to the places they go. And she doesn’t feel like just inviting me somewhere with them will change anything.
I pretty much ended my friendship with her and my two close others friends, because I am certain they feel the same way that she does.
Was/Is this the right thing to do? Do I need to move on and find new friends? Am I expecting too much out of people?
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