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Ok, so I had just started college and was having trouble finding my social niche. Eventually I found a group of (male) metalheads that I fit in with perfectly. We became great friends, but one of the boys wanted more than friendship. I insisted we remain friends. Now, not attending college with us, were 2 of their close female friends. They were very snobby and rude around me. After a concert we had attended, the 2 girls spread rumors that I had grabbed one of the guys’ crotches in the pit. Rumors started flying, and now I lost my “friends.” One of the girls’ ex boyfriends had been in the same situation (sort of) and he began talking to me, and we eventually became great friends and we are now dating. Now, the problem is, the guys of that metalhead group are toxic around him, the girls of that group are toxic to me. We see them almost every week at a friend’s band practice, and the tension is so thick you could cut it with a knife. What should I do to deal with this?

*I’m also female by the way
I didn’t make any friends in my dorm freshman year. I think this is because most of these women were dumb, party-animal, airhead types. We were nice to each other and all, but I really don’t think anyone could have forced us to be friends. Now, this doesn’t mean I don’t ever party, but I’m by no means the stereotype of a female college student.
I’m a junior next fall, and I have made some friends, including two close friends, but I really don’t feel any stability with my social life. In other words, I don’t feel like I have a “core” or “base” that keeps me feeling socially secure. I truly feel like I’m on my own and have to fend for myself. In some ways this is great because I’m an introvert and so I can have my “space”. Yet, when I want that social closeness (either from a friendship or relationship) I don’t have it… What I really want and feel I’m missing in my life is a sense of social stability/security… I haven’t found a social niche, really. There is one group I’m friends with (and can say I’m part of for the most part), but it still isn’t providing that security in terms of my social life.
I guess I just don’t like that I have all these connections, but little solid or reliable social support and security. How do I change this? Meeting people at this school is a ridiculous challenge. With 55,000 undergrads, even people who have joined smaller clubs are fairly distant. The atmosphere around here makes it challenging to make close friends unless you were already from the area

I am a high-school junior and am afraid of failing everything I attempt, such as failing to discover my social niche in society, failing to develop meaningful relationships with others, failing academics and getting accepted into college, failing to achieve happiness etc. I try not to let my fear of failing everything prevent me from participating in life’s opportunities, yet when I do participate, I feel apprehensive and uneasy and unhappy. I don’t know what I want and, therefore, don’t know what to do and how to accomplish this ‘happiness’ that I so actively seek. (I can’t achieve such happiness because I don’t know what happiness really is. What am I seeking? What am I afraid of?) I want to evade this state of apprehension and fear of failing everything. I just don’t know how to go about doing this.

with her? If she want to hug me and kiss me but I don’t want the possibility of me depending on her warmth and love, what should I do? When the girl tries to kiss me I kiss her back but only briefly and the same for the hugs? I’m hetrosexual and sometimes I feel like kissing her and holding her. I only talk to her to be polite and relatively sociable but if she wouldn’t notice then I probably wouldn’t at all. I also feel that I am partly with her to fit into a social niche, and to be percieved as popular, and so that that when I meet up with people I can take her with me etc. Although she is percieved as beutiful i don’t want to love her. What should I do? Whats your opinion of this? Details?

with her? If she want to hug me and kiss me but I don’t want the possibility of me depending on her warmth and love, what should I do? When the girl tries to kiss me I kiss her back but only briefly and the same for the hugs? I’m hetrosexual and sometimes I feel like kissing her and holding her. I only talk to her to be polite and relatively sociable but if she wouldn’t notice then I probably wouldn’t at all. I also feel that I am partly with her to fit into a social niche, and to be percieved as popular, and so that that when I meet up with people I can take her with me etc. Although she is percieved as beutiful i don’t want to love her. What should I do? Whats your opinion of this? Details?

According to Gottfredson, the following should be most compatible with one’s self-concept.
a. birth niche
b. extraverted niche
c. life niche
d. social niche